(Closed) When is it ok to go over your boss’ head?

posted 8 years ago in Career
Post # 3
1160 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I don’t know anything about HR or legal employment issues so keep that in mind.

But I would say take some notes on what she says in meetings (record dates & times) and compile a list of the real figures and present them as matter of factly as possible. Just say you have noticed a discrepancy and would like to address that so that no one is getting the wrong impression.

The thing I can’t help with is whether you should go to supervisor first to give her a chance to explain, or directly to big boss. There are arguments for both ways and I don’t want to give you bad advice!! good luck!

Post # 4
3176 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I’d just be very careful. I am the gatekeeper if you will for the general manager. If people want to see him they sort of have to go through me. We get lots of people upset about small things (hours, pay, vacation, etc). 99% of the time they get in trouble for not dealing with their direct manager or department manager first and “wasting” the bosses time. I think only once or twice has something happened that merited going straight to the big guy and even in that situation the first thing that was done was calling in the direct manager. I would say try to sit down with her and express your concerns. Present the facts and if need be request a meeting between the 3 of you that way everything is out in the opne.

and  I’m saying have it between the 3 of you b/c if she is lying she won’t be able to lie if you are there to counter her claims with facts.

Post # 5
46607 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

As difficult as it might be, I would express my concerns to her first.

If you go to her boss first, she(her boss) will always wonder when you do the same to her  and go above her head without consulting with her.

Post # 6
3866 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

If you have HR, go talk to someone there.  Explain what’s going on, provide proof (if you don’t have this, it’s your word against hers), and then find out what they suggest.

That’s what I would do.  It keeps your butt out of the fire (sorta) and also allows them to look into it.  

Maybe someone on here has more knowledge than me and has a better answer??? 

good luck and sorry you’re having to deal with this!

Post # 7
3482 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

The first thing to do is assemble proof of her fudging the facts, in whatever form you can. That way, if you confront her directly and she tries to lie to the higher ups to cover her butt, you have hard evidence.

I think june42011’s suggestion of a meeting with you, her, and her supervisor is the best route to go. That way it won’t turn into a he-said, she-said situation; she’ll have to explain herself to her boss and if she tries to use you as a scapegoat, you’ll be right there to defend yourself.

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