(Closed) When is it ok to say “Your gift sucks!”

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: When is it ok to say "This gift sucks"
    Never. That is just rude. : (140 votes)
    62 %
    Only if it offends you in some way : (25 votes)
    11 %
    You can tell them but tactfully, such as "That is inappropriate" : (11 votes)
    5 %
    If you hate it, smile, go home and throw it away : (49 votes)
    22 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    2214 posts
    Buzzing bee

    It’s never ok to say that, IMO.  I always smile and say thank you when I get a gift. If I don’t like it, then I try to exchange it, regift it, or donate it, but I never tell the person who gave it to me!

    Post # 4
    Member
    10367 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    Yeah….that’s never cool. There are a LOT of gifts i’ve ditched in my years, but i’ve always smiled and thanked the person perfusely.

    Post # 5
    Member
    714 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    Never. 

    Post # 6
    Member
    14186 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    Um, my mom tried to gift me some flavored lube once she bought at a Cupcake Party. Said she just had to buy something. I handed it back and said “EWWW NOOOOOOO” and when she made me take it, i stuck it in the trash Yell

    Sometimes it’s very okay to tell the person their gift sucks, haha.

    Post # 7
    Member
    131 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    I agree with Boston Bee just smile and get rid of it

    Post # 8
    Member
    5273 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2009

    I would never say it outloud. I may think it & tell my husband, but never tell the person who gave it to me.

    Post # 9
    Member
    190 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    It’s never okay. Like PPs have said, I’ve received some pretty crappy gifts over the years, some that I am sure the giver knew were crappy when they were giving it to me. However, I always smile and keep it moving. People dont have to give you anything. Being grateful and polite is always a sign of maturity and consideration in my book.

    Post # 10
    Member
    442 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    My Fiance loves watching magic shows as do I on occasion. Fiance family knows this as well, for Christmas last year my Fiance brother got him a magic set. While my Fiance loves watching the shows, he is not going to put on a cape and perform card tricks and pull a rabbit out of a hat. Fiance told brother sorry I’m really not going to use this, and gave it to one of the nephews. Future Brother-In-Law was not upset, he was confused and didn’t understand why Fiance didn’t want the magic set, I died laughing.

    Post # 11
    Member
    3620 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    If it’s embarassing and you’re forced to open it in front of other people, I think it’s acceptable to let your Future Mother-In-Law know that it’s inappropriate! I wouldn’t say it sucked in front of her though…

    Post # 12
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    3620 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    ItalianLady – I think that some people would answer the poll differently if they knew what you received… 😉

    Post # 13
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    5921 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: December 2010

    Yes, we want to know what you got!!!

    Post # 14
    Member
    6351 posts
    Bee Keeper

    When you’re four years old. My favorite was when my daughter opened a gift and said “Thank you. See Mommy I said thank you even though I didn’t like it!”

    Post # 15
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    5657 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2012

    If it is actually really offensive to the point it is out of line then yes, that should be voiced that behavior like that is terrible and hurtful. It doesn’t matter if it comes in the form of a “gift”.

    Otherwise, no. Even if you hate it you should smile and say thank you. 

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