(Closed) When is it 'ok' to tell people you're pregnant?

posted 4 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 46
Member
1357 posts
Bumble bee

I told my family and friends immediately with both my pregnancies. To be honest if I miscarried then I would have told them I miscarried. It’s a personal decision but for me , I didn’t really get the whole three-month thing because anything can happen after 12 weeks as well. 

Post # 47
Member
716 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

I’m five and a half weeks pregnant and have told my Mom, best friend, boss and a few co-workers mostly because we share an office and I have a lot of nausea. I don’t want to tell any more family, friends or co-workers until my second trimester. The ones I have told would be very supportive if something did happen and I’m fine wpith them knowing if I had a miscarriage. 

Post # 48
Member
113 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2016

acw2016:  Shoot for the second trimester,honestly I would only tell immediate family in the beginning and everyone else would find out at about the four month mark.My guy told half his damn office in the first trimester… It made the miscarriage two times worst when he had to go back and tell people I wasn’t preggers anymore.

Post # 49
Member
698 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

I’d tell my siblings and our sets of parents right away but wait til 12-14 weeks before announcing it to the world.  Unless I really had a reason to tell (IE: really sick at work and my boss needs a reason for my absense or my frequent bathroom breaks) I’d keep it to myself and away from social media.

Post # 50
Member
527 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

acw2016:  the 12 week point is usually the ‘safe’ time, however like anythung, pregnancy can change at anytime. 

 

Darling Husband and I told our families at around 13 weeks after the appointment with our OBGYN. We had a scan and saw the heart beat which was reassuring. i told my work at about 20+ weeks. It went on social media at around 30 weeks. We weren’t in a real hurry to announce. Dear Daughter is 7 months old now 🙂

 

good luck!

Post # 51
Member
1601 posts
Bumble bee

We are TTC and having a lot of issues, but if and when the time comes, I would likely immediately tell my mom and Darling Husband only (who have been super supportive with my fertility issues).

My mom and I have discussed that my dad would worry, and my brother and uncle might comment (my brother and I aren’t super close). My in laws I would definitely wait, and not tell even close friends so I wouldn’t have to explain (I am high risk already). So probably 12 weeks at least before announcing. 

Post # 52
Member
855 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

With my DS, i tolx mh best friend at 4 weeks, we told our parents at 8 weeks and my DH’S siblings at 11 weeks and everyone else at 12 weeks/we just let the news spread itself at that time. We had some family members on DH’s side that didn’t get the news til around 14 weeks and not from us personally and we’re quite upset they didnt know already. 

This time, I’m 6 weeks now and we only told my best friend bc I’m Maid/Matron of Honor in her wedding and I’m suredue Sept 13 and her wedding is Sept 23rd. I had to tell her bc we went dress shopping. She ended up telling the other bridesmaids  (I wasn’t thrilled about that,but it was hard to keep it quiet all dress shopping together ) We plan on telling our parents and sibling at 11 weeks at our sons 2nd bday party! 

Post # 53
Member
917 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2015 - Cathedral of the Immaculate Conception / Courtyard Marriott Legacy Ballroom

This is definitely a personal choice. I’m a very private person and wanted to wait until at least 12 weeks to tell anyone, but Darling Husband really wanted to tell someone right away so I ended up letting him tell my Mom when I was around 5 weeks. We decided to wait to tell Mother-In-Law because we knew she wouldn’t be able to keep it a secret – Darling Husband finally convinced me to let him tell her and Father-In-Law when I was around 8 weeks. Of course, she ended up telling all her friends, one of whom told DH’s brother before we were able to – I was pretty mad about that! I started telling my close friends and family at around 12 weeks, but even at 32 weeks now, I haven’t made a big announcement on Facebook or anything. I’m just letting the news spread by word of mouth.

Post # 54
Member
963 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2015 - On a Cliff Overlooking the Bay, Florida

acw2016:  Family i would tell right away and they will respect our wishes to keep it within the family until we make an announcement to our friends. My Mother-In-Law is a NICU nurse so I appreciate any and all information she has given me about having a baby. plus our families are so close i couldn’t imagine us not telling the our parents right away.

Post # 55
Member
2121 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

It’s personal, but I think I’d tell family and best friends right away. Although people would still support you through a miscarriage or anything of the sort. One of my closest friends had an early miscarriage and none of us knew until it happened. Of course we were still there for her and did our best at loving and supporting her. She fell pregnant again and started bleeding early on with another suspected miscarriage, and she told me right away because she was so scared it was happening again. That way I was there for her through it. Turns out she’d fallen pregnant with fraternal twins and lost one. She went on to have a healhy baby boy 🙂

Post # 56
Member
603 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

acw2016:  We told my parents, my brother and SIL at 6-7 weeks only because I had a work trip (work with my dad and brother) and my mom would be tagging along too and I didn’t want them to wonder why I was so exhausted/nauseous. I had some spotting early on so we were nervous to tell anyone anyway. When things were looking ok, we told DH’s parents 2-3 weeks later (so around 8-9), and waited to ‘announce’ to extended family/general public until about 16 weeks. I just happened to be 16 weeks when we were going to a family party and that’s how the timing worked. I don’t use facebook anymore because I needed a major social media detox, so we just let the word kind of get around, and I posted a picture yesterday on Instagram of my bump at 28 weeks and a ton of people still didn’t know I was pregnant so I guess I’m an odd case. I hadn’t been purposely avoiding posting anything, but I did want to wait a bit to make sure that my family and friends (spread across the country) would hear it from either Darling Husband or me first and not online.

I think whenever people feel comfortable sharing is when they should – I would be nervous to tell anyone that I’m not super close with prior to 12-14 weeks because the only people I’d want comforting me are those that love me and could surround me with good energy. I’ve heard people in various social circles talk in the past about ‘so and so’ that announced early and miscarried and it doesn’t seem sympathetic when they bring it up – it seems gossipy to me and I wouldn’t want to be fodder for someone’s gossip, whether it’s genuine sympathy or not. I tend to be a more private person though so that’s just what works for me 🙂

Post # 57
Member
603 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

MrsGAM:  Same – I’m 28 weeks now and people are still finding out. Some have acted like we didn’t tell on purpose but I’m a pretty private person so I just didn’t feel the need to put it on blast to a bunch of randoms. It’s not like I can hide this belly if I see you out! LOL!

I don’t use FB anymore, it’s crazy how much people rely on it not only to spread news, but to find things out about people, and when you don’t post every second of your life they’re somehow offended! Haha

Post # 58
Member
448 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

When that time comes, we will be telling close friends and our parents. I would be okay telling them I miscarried if it came to that and would need that support.

Post # 59
Member
4891 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

acw2016:  TTC at the moment. We’d tell immediate family right away. But, I’d also like to take a blood test with my doctor to confirm after the POAS is a BFP. That way, I know for sure… just in case the POAS was a false positive. Immediate family would be parents and siblings. We would also probably tell our living grandparents, but maybe wait another month.

As for everyone else, since it would be our first, I want to wait until 3 months (or 12 weeks). I think that’s a good enough time to keep the fun news to ourselves before announcing to others – even some close friends.

Post # 60
Member
180 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

I’m not sure when I would tell if I end up pregnant again. I had two miscarriages last year one at almost 11 weeks and one at 8 weeks. We had only told close family both times but both times it was very hard telling people we had lost the baby.

The topic ‘When is it 'ok' to tell people you're pregnant?’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors