Post # 1
My dad has never been in the picture much– my mom raised me. I was going to have both of them walk me down but I am having second thoughts and kind of want to walk myself down. The whole wedding planning process has been stressful my mom hasnt been very supportive during this time but I guess maybe she is just sad im growing up who knows. I also would just like the least over-dramatic crying and if both of them walk me down it wont be. What would you do?
Post # 2
Llsiena: When is it OK to walk down the aisle alone? Whenever you wish it! While there is a lot of cultural pressure for women to give (usually) their fathers this moment, if you genuinely feel that your parents have not been supportive, I say walk yourself down.
Post # 3
Llsiena: I don’t think there is any problem with walking down alone even if you are close with your parents.
Post # 4
If you want to walk alone, walk alone!
My dad has never been in the picture, so my mom walked me down the aisle.
Post # 5
Its okay to walk down the isle alone if you WANT to!
Honestly, if my dad hadn’t expressed such WANT to walk me down the isle (and I hadn’t been afraid of falling on the cobble stone) I had always envisioned walking down alone.
If I were you I would walk down alone.
Post # 6
Llsiena: If you want to walk alone I think that’s great!!
Post # 7
Llsiena: I’ll be walking alone. I’m a strong INDEPENDENT woman and I give myself away!
Post # 8
I’m going it alone! My dad isn’t in my life, I’ve been married before and he did walk me that time and I’ve always regretted it to be honest. I felt it was false and I gave him an honour he didn’t deserve. This time I am excited to be walking alone, I’m giving myself to my FI and that will be the way I feel when I walk towards him. I also have no BMs so I am properly alone, eek!
Post # 9
It is always OK to walk down the aisle alone.
Post # 10
Whenever you want to! My mom keeps asking me if I’m sure I really want to walk alone (my dad died when I was 12) and I honestly don’t see what the big deal is. I was just at a friend’s wedding in April and she walked by herself and both of her parents are alive and were present at her day.
Post # 11
I walked on my own. My dad gets nervous do didn’t want to stress him out and also prefer to walk myself down! 🙂
Post # 12
Llsiena: It’s your wedding, you can do it exactly how you want and if that means walking alone then why not?
Just a suggestion – a uni friend of mine walked down the aisle with her DH as her Dad was not in the picture.
Post # 13
I walked alone. I am close to my father, but I discussed it with him. He said that he was not comfortable with the idea of giving a woman away, and I said I wasn’t either. So that was easy!
Post # 14
It is always okay to walk alone if that is what you want to do.
If I were in your shoes: if I had a good relationship with my mom outside of wedding planning I would have her walk me down the aisle. Weddings are stressful and I wouldn’t want one rough patch to determine if she should walk me down. I probably wouldn’t even entertain the idea of my dad walking me down if I didn’t have much of a relationship with him.
Post # 15
- Wedding: A very pretty church.
Whatever feels right to you.
I am not super excited by the whole ownership exchange aspect of that walk. So I am unsure if I’m going it alone or having someone walk me down. At this point I may ask my ‘maid of honour’, having a good friend to make sure I don’t fall over would be really neat, another choice would be my brother. It’s hard because this is a very toughy subject. Some men, no matter how present as fathers think it’s their ‘right’, but that’s from the previously mentioned bad old days of ownership.