(Closed) When is it too early to tell your boss you are leaving?

posted 8 years ago in Career
Post # 3
418 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@thegoogler88:  I had to move. I let them know ASAP when my last day would be. They had about 2 months notice. I don’t know what kind of a job you have but this allowed me to help fill my position and train my replacement.

Post # 5
13563 posts
Honey Beekeeper

I honestly think you could tell her at any point now. You’re not just up and leaving for another job or anything like that — you’re moving away. There’s no reason for her to be upset with you or treat you any differently. I think that the earlier she knows, the better.

Post # 6
955 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

I will be in the exact same position in a few years time! I think the PPs gave you excellent advice. Good luck!

Post # 8
1109 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I agree that you could tell her at any point now.

And I dont think it would be rude at all to ask her to be a reference.

Post # 10
4660 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

@MrsConnick:  I agree.  SO even told his boss before he started looking that he would be looking for new opportunities.

Post # 12
13563 posts
Honey Beekeeper

No, it’s not rude to ask her to be a reference, especially as you’re leaving on good terms and respecting your boss and your workplace by giving them plenty of notice.

I know you said it may be tricky, but I would absolutely do it in person if possible.

Post # 13
3571 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Type up your formal resignation “notice” letter and tell her in person. Then hand her the letter. I suggest you look at the website “brazen careerist.” (I don’t work for them or anything) They have a lot of helpful articles and stuff for young professionals.

Post # 15
13095 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

I agree with the PPs.  Give her as much notice as possible so you can help transistion everything and train your replacement.  Write up a formal letter but give it to her and discuss it in person.  And so long as you are leaving on good terms (which it sounds like you are), asking for a reference should be no problem.

Post # 16
7586 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

@thegoogler88:  Tell her in person. An email has a very different feel and isn’t professional in this situation. 

If an employee comes to me and explains that they are getting married, and therefore making a move, that’s a happy time for them, so more than likely I would support them and give them a recommendation. 

If an employee sends me an email it may have more of a direct feel to it, that isn’t as friendly. I might not be as welcoming to help. 

Just make sure that if you lose the job early you’ll be ok. If they find an amazing replacement for you, then they may have to let you go if money is tight and can’t keep you both on at the same time.

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