Post # 1
Hi ladies. MY Darling Husband and I have recently decided that we are ready to begin TTC soon. I do not receive any PTO or other maternity benefits so I will literally have up to a month off of work to recover. I manage a retail store so Nov/Dec are huge months for us so I will need to be on my feet working long days six days a week during the holidays and the first two weeks of May will be busy work-wise as well. When would be the ideal time for us to conceive? I am worried about morning sickness and other side effects, being too pregnant to be effective at my job, and recovery time. Is there anything else I should be concerned with?
Thank you for any help or advice you can provide!
Post # 3
@MissTatas: IF your pregnancy proceeds “normally”–which is a big IF, in the sense that there is really no “normal,” but I’m meaning in the way that a lot of women seem to experience it–then it’d be ideal for you to conceive sometime in Nov/Dec so you’d be early in the pregnancy and then in the 2nd trimester by May. Most women don’t experience heavy morning sickness until around 8-9 weeks and most women feel their best in the 2nd trimester.
BUT, and this is a HUGE ‘BUT’–there are PLENTY of women who don’t get morning sickness at all, or get it in the 2nd trimester instead of the first, or have it all 9 months (yikes). Plus, you are likely to get hit by fatigue anytime during the pregnancy.
Having said that, again, women have been having babies for centuries and working–sometimes hard manual labor–through it for centuries as well. It’s not likely that your symptoms will be so extreme that you won’t be able to work–maybe take a few sick days is more like it. Now, if your pregnancy is so difficult that it does affect your ability to work, then your doctor will be able to help get you on disability. I don’t know about the legal aspects as to whether disability status affects keeping your job (depends on your job and the state you live in and all that), but that is one option out there.
Post # 4
@BothCoasts: That is the timing I was considering as well. I know we may have issues getting pregnant at first and that’s okay. I am still new to my position so I don’t want to interfere with the holiday season but I also do not want to wait much longer to start on this journey. Thank you so much for your advice!