(Closed) When is the honeymoon phase over?

posted 6 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

@leporidae:  Hmm, I’m not sure.  My Fiance and I have lived together for almost 5 years and we’re still completely smitten with each other, but we’ve also always been best friends.  I think it just turns into both?  I’m not sure for everyone else, but this has been my experience.

Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

@leporidae:  I’ve been told that too, but I’m skeptical.  I figure as long as you’re happy together, just enjoy it.

Post # 6
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

I think everyone is different.

Based on my own experiences (I’m over 50)… I’d say that the first few months are frisky for sure.  And although the “frequency” may fall off a bit around the end of year one… the intensity is still there.

Somewhere around year two, I’ve found that couples settle into more of a routine.  (Probably WHY when they talk about the old-fashioned concept of folks being NEWLYWEDS the first year it reflects on the fact the sexual passion can be HUGE… particularly so if the couple weren’t having sex before they married)

I’ve also always found there is some sort of an adjustment in relationships around years 3, 5 and 7.

Can’t really describe WHAT that is… but it is a sense of familarity that changes.

Reflective more on what the couple says to each other… how much time they spend together etc

Whether that includes what goes on in the Bedroom… well that is up to the couple…

Take your partner for granted… and things are sure to GO SOUTH quickly… be that in the bedroom or out

Relationships are work… more so the longer a couple is together.  Which is WHY Date Nights, “Dirty” Get-Away Weekends, and Vacations are so important to longterm couples.

As couples age, they do tend to have sex less frequently… it just is the way things go for most people.  BUT that doesn’t mean that sex can’t be great.  Many of us old-timers will tell you that QUALITY can trump Quantity anytime.

Like everything else in life… it is what you CHOOSE to make of it.

Hope this helps,

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@leporidae:  I’ve been with my husband for 9 years, lived together for 5 years and it’s never wore off.  The intensity of our sex life has peaks and valleys.  But in general, sex has gotten exponentially better over time. 

I think as long as you continue to communicate, continue to want to satisfy your partner, you can’t go wrong!

Post # 8
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310 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@leporidae:  omg.weve been like rabbits these past 2 weeks.its been awesome.i so love my husband

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@JemmaWRX:  ive been with my husband 9 yrs as well and we had our dull stages but when when we got married its been like a new relationship ever since.im very head over hills

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