When is the right time to announce engagement?

posted 2 years ago in Engagement
Post # 2
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2019

I think you are overthinking it. Will the first time you see his mom be at the dinner? If not then you can tell her in person before the dinner, and take Future Brother-In-Law and his wife aside when you get there to tell them. Or you could give them a call.

You’re engaged bee, you should be able to share your wonderful news ASAP!

Post # 3
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Buzzing bee

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futuremrsnewhouse :  you seem like a really caring and considerate person, Bee!

that being said, this is a really happy and exciting time in your life, so if anyone thinks you’re being insensitive or trying to steal someone else’s thunder just for sharing that happy news, you don’t need that kinda negativity in your life anyway.

congratulations!!

Post # 4
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Newbee

I agree; you’re way overthinking this. Tell your Future Mother-In-Law as soon as you see her, even before going to the dinner party if possible. If you won’t see her until you’re at the dinner, take her aside and let her know first; she may take it from there and let everyone else know at the apartment.

What about your side of the family? You need to let your parents know as quickly as possible too, at the very least the same evening as the dinner party (either right before or after you tell FMIL), assuming you’re close to your parents.  As a future MOB, I’d be upset if everyone on my daughter’s fiance’s side (i.e. siblings, cousins, grandparents, aunts, uncles) found out before I did.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2019

You are way overthinking! 

FH took a picture of the ring on my hand and texted it to his parents and siblings thirty minutes after he proposed. I texted my family. We texted our friends. Some then called us. And the next day I posted on Instagram. 

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2019

You can tell her you wanted it at your house as you two have An announcement to make to the family. Or you can just say ok, and then announce at the dinner at their house. If she gets upset just tell her the reason you organized a get together was to share your news. Because regardless of if it’s at her place or not, it was your idea to organize a get together. 

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futuremrsnewhouse :  

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2020

I think as long as you tell the people you are close to before it goes on social media you are ok!

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2018 - Location

Just tell people, you’re engaged it’s not that big of a deal and no one else’s life is going to stop. 

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2019

Something bad is always happening in the world and babies are still being born. 

Just announce it already. 

Post # 11
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Busy bee

Are you going to tell them the date it happened? They will probably find it odd you didnt tell them when you got back. 

+1 Just announce it already. 

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