Post # 1
I got engaged almost a month ago while on vacation. We decided to wait until we were home to announce to family and friends, but now it seems likes there’s always something that comes up that prevents us from wanting to announce it…
1 – Before the end of our vacation I found out that a close cousin just got left by his fiancé. Of course, I felt it would be insensitive of us to announce our engagement right after this happened to him, so we chose to wait a bit.
2- We then found out that 2 very close friends of ours are getting divorced. Again, same issue with coming off as insensitive.
3 – FH’s mom lives out of town and is coming to visit next weekend, so at this point we figured we might as well wait one more week until she’s here to tell her in person, therefore to make it “fair,” we are waiting to tell all of our close family and friends the same weekend. We don’t want to tell my parents and then his mom not get to hear the announcement until a week after.
4. Now that we think we are in the clear to announce next weekend, I text FBIL’s wife to ask if they want to come to our house the night that the mom is in town for a family dinner. She responds asking if we can actually have dinner at their new apartment since Future Mother-In-Law hasn’t seen it yet. I’m happy to go there for dinner instead of host myself, BUT is it okay to announce our engagement while they are hosting us for dinner? Especially in their new apartment, will it seem like we are trying to steal their thunder in any way?
I fully realize that I may be just overthinking it and that we should just announce it so everyone can celebrate with us.
Post # 2
I think you are overthinking it. Will the first time you see his mom be at the dinner? If not then you can tell her in person before the dinner, and take Future Brother-In-Law and his wife aside when you get there to tell them. Or you could give them a call.
You’re engaged bee, you should be able to share your wonderful news ASAP!
Post # 3
you seem like a really caring and considerate person, Bee!
that being said, this is a really happy and exciting time in your life, so if anyone thinks you’re being insensitive or trying to steal someone else’s thunder just for sharing that happy news, you don’t need that kinda negativity in your life anyway.
Post # 4
I agree; you’re way overthinking this. Tell your Future Mother-In-Law as soon as you see her, even before going to the dinner party if possible. If you won’t see her until you’re at the dinner, take her aside and let her know first; she may take it from there and let everyone else know at the apartment.
What about your side of the family? You need to let your parents know as quickly as possible too, at the very least the same evening as the dinner party (either right before or after you tell FMIL), assuming you’re close to your parents. As a future MOB, I’d be upset if everyone on my daughter’s fiance’s side (i.e. siblings, cousins, grandparents, aunts, uncles) found out before I did.
Post # 5
You are way overthinking!
FH took a picture of the ring on my hand and texted it to his parents and siblings thirty minutes after he proposed. I texted my family. We texted our friends. Some then called us. And the next day I posted on Instagram.
Post # 6
Thank you for all the input, this makes me feel a lot better!
We plan on telling my dad and stepmom on Friday night, and then his family Saturday, and my mom and stepdad Sunday.
I like the idea of just telling his mom once she gets here.Since we have a guestroom she always stays with us, so she’ll arrive here first. Then we’ll see what happens at dinner when we go over there.
Post # 7
You can tell her you wanted it at your house as you two have An announcement to make to the family. Or you can just say ok, and then announce at the dinner at their house. If she gets upset just tell her the reason you organized a get together was to share your news. Because regardless of if it’s at her place or not, it was your idea to organize a get together. futuremrsnewhouse :
Post # 8
I think as long as you tell the people you are close to before it goes on social media you are ok!
Post # 9
- Wedding: August 2018 - Location
Just tell people, you’re engaged it’s not that big of a deal and no one else’s life is going to stop.
Post # 10
Something bad is always happening in the world and babies are still being born.
Just announce it already.
Post # 11
Are you going to tell them the date it happened? They will probably find it odd you didnt tell them when you got back.
+1 Just announce it already.