(Closed) When is the right time to have kids?

posted 5 years ago in Parenting
  • poll: When did you start having kids?
    20-25 : (6 votes)
    11 %
    25-30 : (32 votes)
    59 %
    30-40 : (16 votes)
    30 %
    40-50+ : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
    1975 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    Everybody is different 🙂 For Fiance and me, we plan to start TTC about a year after our wedding. We already own our own house and just bought an ASX but after the wedding we will (obviously) be married which I prefer and want to do some renos to our home and buy him a car. A year after the wedding means we will have done these things and have a nice baby fund.

    Both Fiance and I are 21

    Post # 4
    1902 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    Honestly, I think you can have children at pretty much any time, as long as…

    1. You can afford to have children and provide for them,
    2. You are emotionally stable and mature enough to give your children the attention they need

    Post # 5
    7560 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: January 2013

    @LadyElva:  Agreed. 

    I think it’s good to wait a year or two after living together to make sure your relationship is stable and there are no surprises. 


    Post # 7
    751 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2013 - old cheese factory

    my Fiance and i did things backwards. we got pregnant then bought a house when i was 3 months along. now our son is a year and a half and will be 2 when we finally tie the knot. its not ideal but so far everything has been perfect. we are financialy stable enough for me to stay at home and take care of our son. i will say that i am 25 (he is 26) it was so nice to go through that party stage (21-23) we were able to get it all out of our systems. now i have a hard time leaving my house without my kid.

    with that said, no one is really ever READY for kids. there will always be something, but you make things work and that is life. when ever you feel like you two are able to give all your efforts not only to eachother but one more person then you are ready.


    Post # 8
    380 posts
    Helper bee

    We’re going to TTC after we get married, at age 29’ish. We’re 24 now, and most of my family/friends had kids at around 22 and got along just fine. We’ve been together for 4 years, but we just don’t feel like we’re ready for that kind of responsibility yet. We want to be more financially stable first 🙂

    Post # 9
    1920 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    I’m getting married November 2013 and we will most likely TTC in February 2014. I will be 29 at that point. Of course, our financial situation will have a huge bearing on that as well, so we shall see. 

    Post # 10
    1478 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2013 - Creek club at ion, SC

    I have 0 kids but just a little thing about fostering. I dont know if you already have expeience of the foster world but It can be very difficult to mix foster kids and birth kids. If I were you Id get a handle on the fostering and what type you want to do (long-term fostering allows more for birth kids but I have seen short term foster kids blow through a house and destroy everything in it) before merging birth kids. There can be a lot of jealousy and resentment on both sides 

    Post # 11
    2122 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2014 - DD born 2015 DS born 2017

    @LadyElva:  +1000

    Especially part 2. My aunt-in-Law is in her 40s but still isn’t emotionally mature enough to give her 2 kids the attention they are desperately craving. But then a couple of girls/women who were in the same class as me in school got knocked up in their early 20s and are great mums (in my opinion).

    It isn’t about age at all.


    As for my personal situation we are planning to ttc about a year after the wedding; we’ll be 28 by then, we’re both financially ready and have a lot of family support and eager grandparents-to-be, and I’m a kindergarten teacher and already know how demanding kids can be. But I do worry if I can give them the attention they need, sometimes I need some alone time for sanity’s sake!


    Post # 12
    208 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    Whenever you decide you’re truly ready to sacrifice most of your comfortable free time and additional hobbies in order to take care of them. Don’t be fooled it is a REAL time consuming job, scratch that– volunteer effort, i.e. no pay & plenty of hard A** work.

    Post # 13
    2239 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    @LadyElva:  Agreed!

    I’ve always thought 24-26 would be a good time for us to start having children.  We got married when I was 24.  I’m 25 next month and we’ve been talking about kids more and more.

    Post # 14
    9916 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2013

    2pm on a Wednesday.

    Post # 15
    7770 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I think it depends largely on your culture and location and situation.  Personally, I wouldn’t before 29.  It is more about being emotionally ready than financial as well, imho.

    Post # 16
    1238 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    @babylo0n:  when you’re emotionally and financially ready. For some that’s 24, for others it’s late 30’s.

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