Post # 1
We are talking about TTC around this time next year….I will be 25 and my husband will be 27. We won’t be homeowners yet, but we will probably have a lot more in savings by that time. My dream is to own a home we can raise our babies in, but I don’t know if it is better to wait til we can own a home (maybe 2-3 years) or TTC next year. I know nothing will be perfect and think we can afford a child as it is…it’s just really scary because it’s a decision you can’t go back on.
Post # 3
I know what you mean. I always thought we would own a house before TTC but now I just don’t know. Living in NoVA makes that even more difficult. We are still a few years away from TTC but I honestly don’t know if we’ll own a house by that point. I don’t think that’s going to change our TTC timeline. I think you should do what feels right for you, regardless of whether you own a home or not.
Post # 4
- Wedding: June 2011 - Sydney, Australia
I don’t think there is a right time, haha. Life has a way of throwing curve balls at you when it comes to babies. If you think you could make it work, I say it’s as good a time as any. And remember, pregnancy doesn’t always occur quickly or when you want it to..
Post # 5
@jaguar: So true…lol I try to tell myself that if teen moms (like on the show, not actual teen moms) can raise kids, my husband and I can raise a baby in our two bedroom apartment.
@PitBulLover: Yeah I think I just need to change my thinking about it is all.
Post # 6
@kate169: You sound like me a little bit ago. 🙂 I am your age and was wrestling with the decision of TTC vs school vs all sorts of things. I finally decided to let life show me the way and I think I figured myself out…don’t put too much pressure on TTC or buying a house, just give yourself some time to see how things are going to pan out. Finding a home takes a while, sometimes TTC can take a while. Sooner or later you will know what is right.
Post # 7
I think the time is right when both of you are ready for it. 🙂
Post # 8
The past year has taught me that life is too short to wait till x,y,z to happen before doing something you really want.
We also had things we wanted to accomplish prior to TTC. We realized it did not matter. We were ready, we could financially sustain a child, we were emotionally ready, our relationship has been more than ready.
As long as you have those things everything else is just gravy.
Post # 9
im right there with you – and seem to be on the same page. We are thinking of TTC late summer/early fall next year but are signing another year least at the end of January for our apartment. i was dead set on owning a home first but i really want to make sure we have the right amount of savings – we just reached our yearly savings goal and technically have enough for a down payment but i refuse to use ALL our savings on a down payment, i think another year of saving will do the trick – that being said, we are lucky enough to have a 2 bedroom apartment making having a kid a little easier, its a great apartment and would be super easy for the first kid (i watch my nephew there a lot) but who knows, things could change and i could get pregnant tomorrow – either way we are sticking to our plan of another year in our apt -baby or no baby and hopefully this time next year we will be looking at houses.
Post # 10
Here’s another way to think of it:
You’re planning to buy a house in 2-3 years from now.
You’re planning to start TTC in 1 year, so 1-2 years out from when you think you’ll buy a house.
If you get pregnant right away, the baby will be born 3-15 months before you’re ready to buy.
Babies don’t get super mobile for a few months and don’t start to walk until around 12 months, so now you’re in your house or waiting for closing.
If you go with your current plan, you’ll just be baby-making and house hunting simultaneously.
Post # 11
This is a big issue for me, especially since so many people seem to ask when we’re going to start TTC (ummm, let me get married first? haha). For me, I have always known that I wanted to be in a nice starter house to begin raising my family in. Marriage and homeownership are two big factors in whether or not I feel emotionally and financially ready to consider parenthood. To me, it’s a kind of assurance, some stability. My fiance and I bought our house together last year, and we’ve been able to spend so much time together fixing it and making it ours. It’s been a wonderful experience and I can’t imagine having to do it with kids underfoot.
However, I might see this differently and place more importance on it because I grew up poor, living in the spare laundry room at my aunt’s house, and then in a two-bedroom apartment. While I was happy, clothed, well-fed, and very, very loved, I remember the struggles and the lack of space, and I want to do everything in my power to avoid that kind of childhood for my own kids. If doing “everything in my power” means having adequate finances and a safe, cozy home, then that’s what I’ll strive to accomplish before starting a family.
I think that when it comes down to it, most of us are able to go with our gut feeling and determine whether or not we’re in a position (emotionally, financially, etc.) to prepare for starting a family. Everyone’s situations, values, and goals in life are different. =]