(Closed) When is the Waiting game Ending?

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
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  • Wedding: February 2013

If he’s committed enough to want to have a child with you (a lifetime bond, even if you split), I don’t see why he’s not committed enough to get married?

Rather than hint at it, it might help to find a good time for the two of you to have a “come to Jesus” talk.  Openly and honestly express your desire to get married, if its important to you to have that commitment before reaching another goal in your life (becoming a mother, buying a house together, etc) and ask him to consider why he’s not ready.  Is it financial reasons?  Wanting to reach a career goal first?  Fears of divorce stemming from other failed marriages he’s witnessed?  It could be a lot of things not related to the relationship itself, but you’ll never know unless you discuss it.  Then the both of you can figure out plans to overcome these obstacles, and/or you could leave the conversation with some manner of reassurance (After I get a raise/pay off this debt/whatever, I plan to propose).

A lot of us “in waiting” girls have done this.  Marriage is an important and life-changing shift in a relationship, and it doesn’t have to be completely one-sided with the other person just sitting around waiting for the question they know they want to say “yes” to!  It can be an open process if you both want it to be, and he can still surprise you.

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