Post # 1
I have had a rough month, and got more (potential) bad news today.
I got engaged the first Saturday of October. I never got to tell my dad that I was getting married because he passed away sometime that weekend and his phone was off the hook. His friend found him that Tuesday – I got the call at work, and it was my 28th birthday. I was signed up to take the LSAT (test to get into law school) that Saturday – 3 days after I found out my dad died. I took the test, and flew out to CA the next morning to clean out his apartment/deal with other things. My brother and I got in a fight that week, and my mother (divorced from my dad for ages) told me that I was money hungry (big story, I’m sooo not money hungry) and didn’t care that my dad died. Needless to say we aren’t talking because she has yet to apologize for what she said. My brother acted like a baby, stopped helping to clean out the apartment, left, and didn’t go to our fathers memorial service. I haven’t talked to him since either.
I found out last week that I did really, really, really bad on the LSAT (understandably, but still I have to take it again, or apply and hope I get into LS). My stomach has been hurting really badly for the last few weeks, and I finally went to the doctor’s today. She told me that it is probably my gallbladder, and I may have to have surgery to take it out. If I have to have surgery it will cost me my entire deductable of $3k, which would end up being the money I would use for my wedding. I don’t even know if it is my gallbladder or if I’ll have surgery (gotta get a scan), but I’m totally stressing out. Half of me wants to call the venue and cancel (haven’t put a deposit down) because I don’t know how in the world I will come up with my portion for the wedding if I have to pay for a surgery.
I know that life doesn’t suck, that this is all just a “phase”…but still! I am SO grateful that I have an amazing fiancé that is behind me 100%, and is my total anchor.
Post # 3
I’m so sorry for your loss and struggles this month. Just keep looking foward to the good things coming in your life. Your Fiance and try to build relationships with his family that can be a good support network for you. Make sure you get a second opinion on your gallbladder before proceeding with anything. There are TONS of things that can cause pain similar to gallbladder pain. Stress is a BIG thing too, your body could just be trying to slow you down and force you to calm down from all the struggles you’ve had this month. Good Luck!
Post # 4
Oh wow, I am sooo sorry, girlie. That is sure one hell of a rain storm. You sound really strong despite everything. And it sounds like your Fiance is great and really supportive. That is really helpful. I hope everything works out with you and your family. I am sure it will just take time for wounds to heal. And I hope you don’t end up needing surgery. There are actually alternatives to getting gallbladder surgery. My boss’ husband was told he needed gallbladder surgery about two weeks ago, but she gave him this odd mixture of like lemon juice and some other stuff (might want to google a recipe.) He had to take the mixture like every four hours or soemething and it was crazy gross, but it got rid of the gallstones without him having to have surgery. Often times docs are quick to recommend surgery, but somtimes there are better alternatives. Check it out!
Best of luck to you during this tough time. I hope it gets better soon!
Post # 5
I am so sorry for the loss of your father and everything else that is that is going on in your life. I know this has to be such a difficult time for you. Keep your head up and keep focusing on the positives in life. Wishing you all the best!
Post # 6
I havent heard that saying in a while, but it is true that when it rains it pours…sometimes bad things happen in clusters but then in the same way, good things also happen one right after another too. Hope everything works out well for you in the end
Post # 7
🙁 I’m so sorry about you loss.
Do you have a plan that pays you back for your deductible? We have a high one here at my job and we have a MRA account. Any charges applied to the deductible are paid back to the employee at 90%. I also have a flex.
Maybe your job offers a flexible spending account that you can use to pay your deductible.
Post # 8
Wow. I’m sorry that you’re dealing with so many overwhelming things at once. Life doesn’t seem to always understand that things aren’t supposed to all be bad at the same time. Doesn’t it understand everything in moderation?
But…seriously…it does sound like that’s a lot to deal with, and I’m so glad that you have a supportive fiance. I hope that you’re using him as much as you need to–that’s what they’re there for. And I hope that you have other people in addition to rely on for love, and ears, and shoulders, and everything else you need to help get you through.
I hope the end to all of this comes soon, and things start going in a better direction in the very very near future!
Post # 9
I’m so sorry to hear of your struggles and I’m also sorry for your loss.
If it will put your heart at ease…I know this might sound silly, but my mom has always told me a little old wive’s tale that has always gotten me by. Without fail it always comes true. Bad things come in threes. You’ve hit your three. 1. Issues with family/father passing away 2. Doing poorly on the test 3. Your ill health
Something good is bound to happen! At least you are still greatful for what is good in your life. I hope you can over come these obstacles. Best of luck. *Hugs*