(Closed) When It's All Said and Done, What Really Matters to You?!

posted 6 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
979 posts
Busy bee

Agree 110%!!! 

SO and I talk about when we get married all the time. This will be my 2nd, his first. Neither one of us want a big wedding. We want a simple outdoor wedding. Our kids, immediate family – then invite friends and family somewhere for a huge, casual party and just have fun all night.  And not spend money, not deal with intense planning.  We want to be together. We don’t have the need to share our vows with EVERYONE.  who needs to show off a “first dance”, or have people stare at us while we feed each other a piece of cake.   Who wants to sit and choose a menu for over 100 guests, to who the majority of them are probably picky and won’t eat half of the food we purchase anyways and will get wasted?  


That’s how the 2 of us see it.  The day will be about us, reflect on us and what we want to do. Have fun, have a party.  That whole wedding thing, it’s not us at all.  Yeah, I photograph weddings on a monthly basis..I see it, I don’t want to do it. I, personally, think a lot of the events b&g’s do at weddings, are tacky and a waste of money.  that’s my opinion.  

Post # 4
4948 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

πŸ™‚ Very true!!

This is part of the reason why we eloped. We wanted a raw version where none of the other crap would get in the way of what was most important – that we loved each other and couldn’t wait to be married.

Post # 5
8446 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

I totally agree, it’s easy for bees to get stressed out about all the little details, but at the end of the day, it should really just be a fun party with friends and family.  At least that’s how Fiance and I see it.  I’m lucky though, I haven’t really had too many “problems” arise and I have a helpful, involved groom.  I am really grateful for the bee as well, it’s a great place to get ideas, second opinions, and feedback.

Post # 7
403 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

Post # 9
290 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@SweetMelissa429:  Great epiphany!  It is such a true statement!  Everyone should take a moment to appreciate where they are in life!

Post # 10
3765 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

I found this really beautiful thank you message for the back of our programs, and what sold me on using it was this line:

“Many years from now, when we look back on our life, love, and this day, we will remember that flowers, music, and food were not what made this day so special. It will be our memories of sharing the beginning of our life as husband and wife with you – Our friends and family.”

Post # 11
290 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@SweetMelissa429:  What really matters to me is that 50 years from now me and my Fiance can see ourselves sitting in some rockers on front porch talking about “kids these days” lmao cheesy i know

Post # 12
1357 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

One of the things that resonated with me while I was planning and reading A Practical Wedding is the line “You will not remember how your wedding day looked. You will remember how it felt.

I sometimes talk about little things that I would have done differently or that went wrong…my dress didn’t fit exactly right, we ended up without a cake topper, we got the wrong napkins, so on…but it really is true that when I think about my wedding day, I think about how it felt first. I’m worried people will think I sound like I’m complaining when I post about those kind of things, but really I’m thinking analytically when I post about minutae and details instead of explaining how I really experienced my wedding day.

Post # 13
1157 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@SweetMelissa429:  I completely agree.

No big event here.  Just a very small intimate affair.  10 invited guests, all of them family.

I just want the important people there to share the day with.  No gifts, no dancing (except our dance), no DJ, no looming bills after the fact.

While I do have the stressors of any bride, I have managed to keep it real.  My honey and I talk about what WE want.  And what OUR memories will be.  And so what if it is not perfect, thats what will make it special.

Thanks for your perspective.  Because in the end, being with that one you love for the remainder of your days is what is most important.


Post # 14
2902 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Im glad you posted this. These past few days I have been really close to closing my account on the Bee. I just cant believe the amount of self centeredness I see on here and I feel like it’s getting worse. 

The Me me me! I see here every day makes me so sad and I completely understand why some people dislike brides.

BUT there is hope when I see sweet posts like yours. We just want a picnic under the trees with the people we love. I don’t need to be the centre of attention. I’m not going to chuck a hissy fit if someone is wearing cream. I would love it if my bridesmaid is pregnant and I don’t give a shit if your ring is a Moissy or a Diamond. Its just not about those things. Its about marrying the man (or woman) you love and celebrating how awesome that is.


Post # 16
174 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I would hug all you girls on this thread! I haven’t had some of the major problems that girls have as of now with wedding planning. However, the little things that pop up seem so big at the time. It is always good to be reminded what this is all about. We are having a small wedding with our close family and friends (some family I haven’t seen in decades are coming and it makes me so happy). I am lucky to not have a big brekdown in wedding planning. I am so happy to see all of my family and friends as well as marry my best friend in 7 months. 


Cheers to all you lovely bees who can accept whatever wedding planning brings and have a dream wedding with the man or woman you love πŸ™‚

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