Post # 1
… I just read this interesting blog post about saying goodbye at parties and events. The blogger was talking about how it’s kind of a bummer when people come up and tell you that they are leaving while the party is still going on.
So I’m wondering, do you find the host and tell them you’re leaving or do you just quietly slip out and follow-up with them later?
I always find the host and tell them that I’m leaving but I feel that’s something that is done in our circle of friends so I never really thought about it!
Post # 3
- Wedding: October 2013 - Tybee Island, GA
i find the host and tell them i had an amazing time and thank you. I find it more appropriate than them thinking you didnt have a good time and just ditched out. lol
Post # 4
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
@Mrs.Mittens: ALWAYS find the host and say goodbye.
I thought it was super odd that there were people that left our wedding without saying goodbye. For those that just slipped out I assumed they were having a terrible time and couldn’t be bothered to say goodbye.
Post # 5
I usually find the host. There might be occasions where I don’t, but that would be rare. I think I’ve left immediately because of having an allergic reaction before, and if the host appears to busy I might instead might pass the word on through a spouse, parents, etc.
Post # 6
We’ve done both, it depends on the situation. There are parties where you want or need to make a quiet/quick exit and then are times where it’s more important to thank the host.
Post # 7
@gigglebox: @mchitt329: Good point! I never thought that by just slipping out the host would think that I had a bad time instead of just needing to take off for whatever reason!
Post # 8
Interesting, I always thought it was kind of rude to just leave and not say thank you.
Post # 9
@Mrs.Mittens: I’ve only ever left once without saying good bye to the host or guest of honor and it was because I didn’t want to hear the “Awe why? don’t leave! No, stay! You can’t go!” and deal with that and try to give “excuses” that are *good enough* to leave. That can be annoying. But if it’s someone I was really close to I would’ve sucked it up lol
Post # 10
I always find the host, tell them I’m heading out, thanks for having me etc.
Post # 11
I try to find the host and say goodbye. If he/she can’t be found, I just leave.
At events where there is no host, I usually say goodbye to the people I talked with the most.
Post # 12
@Mrs.Mittens: I always find the host, thank them, and tell them that I’m leaving. I think it’s rude not to. I always want to thank people for their time and generosity, rather than just ditching them! I don’t make a huge scene when I leave, a quick/quiet aside with the host seems appropriate.
Post # 13
I had to choose Other. I normally find the Host and say thank you/good-bye. However, I would never interrupt the host in order to accomplish this. At a wedding, the B&G may be really busy at the time I want to leave – dancing, taking pictures, talking to family or other friends. I think it is even more awkward to stand there and wait until they are done or worse, interrupt them, in order to tell them good-bye and thank you. In that case, a follow-up text or email or phone call the next day thanking them for inviting me should be sufficient.
Post # 14
@MrsHoneyBear: I don’t think it’s rude not to if there’s a good reason for not doing so. I would hope someone didn’t think it was rude when I needed medication ASAP.
Post # 15
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
I always say bye, and I usually get in trouble with my husband because I feel the need to say goodbye to evvvverybody and start conversations with them all! Whereas he’s a little ADD and when it’s time to go, he wants to say bye and get out of there.
Post # 16
@Mrs.Mittens: Lol you read Cup of Jo too? I was wondering if someone would make a post on this!
I don’t go to too many parties. I’ve ducked out before, but I don’t normally do that.