Post # 61
BalletParker : absolutely this.
Some people see this thread as lighthearted fun, others object to gender stereotypical language and still others just don’t find it funny, but certainly there’s no need to take a personal jab at a Bee going through a difficult time, that was truly uncalled for.
Post # 62
Lol I have the opposite problem with Darling Husband. I used to have this coffee maker called an “aero press.” It’s kinda like a French press but slightly more complicated, and one of the crucial steps involves placing a paper filter in the device. Well (this was before we lived together), Darling Husband is a coffee addict and any time he came over to my place he would ask me to make him coffee. It started to get old cause he needs like 6 coffees a day and each go with this device takes like 5 minutes and I was just getting bored of constantly making it for him. So one day I wrote out step by step instructions on how to make the coffee with the aeropress so he could do it himself like a big boy. I guess Darling Husband got bored with those instructions, because he just decided to skip the most crucial step: put the paper filter in the device. This resulted in coffee grinds being sprayed all over the walls and ceiling.
Thank god we now live together and have a Nespresso machine where all you have to do is insert a pod and push a button. Although he still sometimes forgets to insert the pod and then wonders why his coffee tastes like dirty water lol. HOPELESS!
Post # 63
BalletParker : hold the phone. Did I ever say I don’t expect her husband to turn the dryer on? No. If you read properly, I said that people make mistakes and they he probably had busy mind and forgot to press the button. I’ve done similar things, I’m sure you have, and I’m sure she has also. She was the one who jumped down OP’s throat calling OP’s husband a child (among many other women here). And how is that fair!? You make one mistake and suddenly you all think her husband can only function on a 10 year old level. Give me a god damn break.
And secondly, I didn’t even read her entire post so I was unaware that she’s going through a divorce. That was an unfortunate coincidence of my comment. So I apologize for that. However, this post and what happened to me last weekend have absolutely nothing in common. So why even bring it up? Somehow sexual assault is similar to forgetting to turn a dryer on?
My point in all of this was directed at the women here who called OP’s husband a child. OP never said that he does this regularly. This was likely a one off incident. Shit happens. It’s funny. There’s no need to get your panties in a wad over a simple mistake. Like I said, I’m sure all of you that attacked OP are perfect and have never made a little (or even a big) mistake. We should all take lessons from you on how to live better lives.
Post # 64
mrscb2bee : Maybe he did make a mistake, but if that were all it is, then why would he not just have said that. He didn’t. Instead he tried to turn it around and blame the OP. That’s the problematic part of it. That’s the childish part of it. Not the specific action of not turning on the dryer.
From the OP:
me: “Why didn’t you turn it on.”
SO: “You didnt tell me to do that.”
—If SO had said: “Oops my bad.” We would all be laughing.
and “unfortunate coincidence” or not, you DID say:
“You seem ridiculously uptight. I’m sure it’s a quality your husband finds attractive *sarcasm*”
That’s a pretty uncalled-for personal attack. Regardless of whether she’s going through a divorce or whether you knew about it, that’s still an uncalled-for thing to say to anyone who simply disagrees with you.
Post # 65
mrscb2bee : Thank you for the apology. The correlation between your post and this one, is not what they are about. More that you got support for your issue and on this thread you are tearing me down for having a different opinion.
I thought the joke was OP’s husband acting like a child. How is it unfair to say I don’t find that funny?
It has been said over and over again, that we all make mistakes. Its been said over and over again that this can legitimately become a bigger issue, and that’s what I was trying to bring up.
I also never said I was perfect, nor did I say I never made a mistake, nor did I attack the OP as you are suggesting. I re-read my posts and in all of them I said I’m glad she found this funny and if she has no issue with this, then that’s amazing. Everyone’s relationship is different.
I also never suggested everyone take lessons from me on how to live better lives, although you could try to think about the other side of this that has been brought up and explain several different ways.
If I shouldn’t get my panties in a wad over a simple mistake, why are you getting yours in a wad about my opinion?
Post # 66
I didn’t read the whole thread, but the “you didn’t tell me to do that” line – I just read that as a kind of bashful goofy banter? Like surely he realizes that he shouldn’t need to be told to hit the button. I would hope. I could honestly see both Darling Husband and myself making an airhead mistake like that if we were distracted in the moment. But we are both kind of head in the clouds types a lot of the time.
Post # 67
” No. If you read properly, I said that…..”
“And secondly, I didn’t even read her entire post so I was unaware that…”
I’m not sure whether this falls under irony or hypocrisy.
Post # 68
mrscb2bee : yes, it is related actually. It’s about being supportive to others going through a tough time and it’s about not attacking other women by sarcastically saying you’re sure their husband finds that quality attractive.
If you can’t see why that’s below the belt and unrelated to this topic, I can’t help you.
RobbieAndJuliahaha : I noted that irony too. Lol. Okay then! On another subject, did you save any of those Halloween treats for me?!?! 😋
Post # 69
BalletParker : “On another subject, did you save any of those Halloween treats for me?!?!”
lol sorry, we’re down to stray rockets and random packs of Maynards….we extended our scary movie marathon into Wednesday evening and ate all the peanut butter cups & chocolate bars. Also polished off a bag of Chicago mix popcorn. definitely spending a good chunk of tomorrow morning at the gym!
Post # 70
RobbieAndJuliahaha : nooooo!!!! The peanut butter cups are gone? My life is over.
Post # 71
tiffanybruiser : exactly. It was likely sarcasm from him
RobbieAndJuliahaha : 🙄
babygrandmabee : “although you could try to think about the other side of this…” I have. And in the grand scheme of life, this isn’t such a big deal. I understand where you’re going with that, as it could become a large issue with him not following directions. But once again, from the OP, it doesn’t sound like this is a habit. It sounds like something funny happened in their house that night and she shared it. Then he made a joke afterwards. Calling him a child is extreme. But you’re right. Everyone’s relationship is different. It sounds like OP and her husband/SO/whatever they are have a lighthearted relationship and don’t get angry with each other over small things. That’s great. It doesn’t sound like that’s the case for some of the other women here unfortunately.
Post # 72
mrscb2bee : I realize an eyeroll is the best you can come up with since the answer is likely C. both irony & hypocrisy. But pretending to take the high road in a comment to another Bee ” But you’re right.. Everyone’s relationship is different” then twisting it around into anyone disagreeing with you obviously doesn’t have a good relationship like OP, that’s just more of the same passive-aggressive bullshit you’ve been playing at throughout the thread (except for the backpedaling when you get called out on your meanness).
BalletParker : The peanut butter cups were the first to go 😀
Post # 73
RobbieAndJuliahaha : welp. Between that and my failure of a relationship this Friday sucks!
Good thing we’re done judging people. Just judging their relationships now as a solid way of validating earlier personal attacks. So sneaky! 😂
OP, my Fiance knows how to use the dryer but he has ruined sweaters and delicates, as well as being a general slob. I once had to explain to him that when I asked him to throw his gum away, I understood this to mean he would wrap the gum in paper instead of tossing it into a non-lined metal trash can.
Sometimes it’s funny. Sometimes it’s not.
Post # 74
Damn you guys, now I want peanut butter cups.
Post # 75
mrscb2bee : “It sounds like OP and her husband/SO/whatever they are have a lighthearted relationship and don’t get angry with each other over small things. That’s great. It doesn’t sound like that’s the case for some of the other women here unfortunately.”
I’m loving the insinuation that women who call attention to harmful gender norms are man hating, uptight shrews.