Post # 1
Recently, I bought the two books Why Men Love Bitches and Why Men Marry Bitches. Now, the first book is more about finding a man by being confident and strong and independent. The second though…is basically like Mr. Bee’s step by step plan for getting a proposal. Let me tell you, ladies, I couldn’t put it down!!! In fact, I’m considering reading it again. It’s wonderful. It basically tells you about being a strong, secure, confident woman [that you don’t know you’re lacking until you read the examples!!!] and getting your man to propose. It sounds sneaky, but it’s not. It’s amazing. There’s tons of tips in the back of the book too. I had no idea how insecure I was making myself seem by consistently asking my man about marrying me. He found it annoying and I thought it was ME…but it wasn’t…
AS SOON as I let up on the pressure, stopped mentioning engagements, anything wedding related, etc. as the book suggests…my man was able to admit to a timeline for our engagement! He even said he noticed me changing, being more confident, and alas more appealing to him.
I URGE any of you, waiting with or WITHOUT a timeline to get this book!!!!
Post # 3
Men are funny like that. As soon as I stopped wanting cuddle or talk time and start doing my own thing in the evening, he came running around wanting to cuddle and talk. WTF!? lol I have decided as of this morning I won’t mention the engagement thing.
Post # 4
sounds like a good read, thanks for the suggestion 🙂
Post # 5
Sounds very interesting. I may need to pick that up. Thanks.
Post # 6
@Miss Tattoo: Ahhh that’s my plan toooo!! We’ll see if I stick to it!!
@missjyc: Welcome. 🙂 Let me know what you think of it!!
@PrettySedity: You’re welome!! You should def. get it!!
Post # 7
That sounds great! I really agree with Mr. Bee’s Three Step Plan. When I stopped harrassing my husband about getting engaged, he finally created a plan and we did get engaged.
Post # 8
I read the first one a while back and LOVE it!
I told myself I’m going to be better at not talking about it, and d***it, I will!! maybe that 2nd book will help that even more! Thanks for the suggestion!
Post # 9
@lalalalinzii: I absolutely LOVE this book! The author is my hero, seriously. I have both, but I read the second one all the time lol. Actually, any time I start to feel really antsy about not being engaged, I whip out the book. I’ve even actually bought the ebook version so if I feel like reading it when he’s home, I can read it on my laptop. (I have the physical copy hidden haha…can’t have him find out my secrets!)
There are so many lines I love from this book, and honestly, it gets me really pumped up and feeling great after I read any of it. Even if I just read a chapter. It’s so true – it’s totally Mr. Bee’s Plan. I love it though, because it totally goes along with everything I’ve heard in the past… if you suddenly start acting more independent, not talking about marriage, suddenly appearing as though you’ve changed your mind (ie: asking him about getting engaged tons, and then suddenly stopping out of nowhere)…. THAT’S when he starts to get nervous and suddenly steps up his game.
I’m totally going to read this today while my SO is at work. I’ve been doing a lot of those things lately without even realizing it, actually lol.
Post # 10
I apologize for the double post (are we allowed to?), but unfortunately I was unable to do an edit. I just wanted to add this:
What it really all comes back to, in my opinion anyway, is the fact that men like to pursue. That’s why when we suddenly pull back a bit, start focusing on ourselves, maybe don’t go over and cuddle as much, that’s when THEY suddenly start wanting to cuddle/talk/spend more time with us. It’s about the chase. My SO fits this to a flippin’ tee, even after 4 years of being together.
Prime example? One day I was at home doing my own thing. My guy was at work. My phone was in another room, and I got busy. I go grab my phone after maybe 2-3 hours and saw that he had texted me like 6 times, and had even tried CALLING ME from work to see if I was okay (it was freakin’ hilarious!). Because normally, I would text back pretty much right away. And of course, that’s when he would take his time texting me back, even if it was dead at work. Actually, I think one part in the book even mentions something similar to this… if they normally can reach you at a certain time, they take that for granted and slack off. But then if they suddenly can’t reach you? They’ll persist and keep trying until they can. I love the psychology aspect behind the book lol, it’s quite entertaining when you think about it.
Post # 11
@authentic:ahaha yesss you are so right! After two years my Boyfriend or Best Friend fits everything in the book to a T!! He is the epitome of needing to pursue. He is also naturally very friendly, independent, and self assured…all things that attracted me to him in the first place… until I didn’t feel those things and then I became a pain to him.
NOT ANYMORE! Since reading this book, I am a changed woman. He even remarks how different I am. It’s odd, yet so wonderful. I love the new me.
I keep my copy hidden but the ebook is a good idea!! I love all the lines from the back of the book too…the tips. It’s true, psychologically, men want what they can’t have. That’s how they get ready to be a husband…they have to feel like they earned it. I think I’ll read some of mine tonight too!!
Post # 12
@lalalalinzii: Thanks for the recommendation! This is so true. I’ve been thinking lately that I need to pay a little more attention to myself!
I think it’s so important to value yourself, have your own life, and find a place where you feel whole, grown-up, and confident before getting married, and I do think that when you get to that stage, men are really attracted to it and often it contributes to both parties being ready to commit!
I think it’s also important to take books like this with a grain of salt, though. No one book has all the answers or can solve an age-old quandry. Every situation is different. I’ve heard a lot of stories about women getting their men to propose using this book or books like “The Rules,” only to have it backfire because, though they might have loved each other, they weren’t really right for each other to begin with, or he wasn’t ready yet, and that’s why he hadn’t proposed!
I’m still going to read this book, though. I also recommend “He’s Just Not That Into You” and the sequel “It’s Called a Breakup Because It’s Broken.” Very funny and true! Just important, I think, not to let these books take the place of common sense, intuition, and your feelings. I made that mistake a couple of times!
Post # 13
@lalalalinzii: GREAT book! I read it a while back and you could not be more on point with recommending it. Thanks for reminding me to re-read it!:)
Post # 14
@lalalalinzii: Thanks for the tip! That book sounds perfect. I may have to follow some of the ladies on here and get the e-book 🙂
By the way, I can’t get over your name! My sister-in-law is named Linnzi – such an unusual spelling, and close to yours! (oh, and we try to get our nephew to say her name by saying “La la la linnzi” – too weird).
Post # 15
This does sound interesting. Thanks for the suggestion :-).
Post # 16
@lalalalinzii: Also had both of these, and they’re great. If you’re in that section of the bookstore/library anyways, I also recommend Why Men Marry Some Women and Not Others.