When mental illness ruins a family, what can you do.

posted 4 months ago in Family
Post # 2
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Unfortunately, you can’t help someone that doesn’t want to be helped.

Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2008 - County courthouse

I second the ‘ll. You really can’t help someone that isn’t willing to help themselves. I have bipolar disorder and I gave many excuses for my behavior before I was diagnosed and successfully treated. I hit rock bottom and realized how much I was hurting those that I love. I seeked treatment myself. Unfortunately, most ppl with mental illness, don’t hit the realization how shitty they make others feel. I would distance yourself from your family and especially your brother. He IS toxic and that wont help YOUR mental illness. If you haven’t already found a good therapist, I recommend you do. Good luck

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2017 - A vineyard

Thirding. My family is full of mental illness. I basically had to step away from the worst of them for my own sanity. I do not deserve to be abused  and I will not give someone a pass to keep hurting me just because they have mental illness. Some of my family still tries to force me to speak on the phone to them but I find an excuse and pretty much immediately hang up. 

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2016

Have you ever read the book The Deepest Well by Dr. Nadine Burke Harris? It’s about the impact of childhood trauma on health and I found it really powerful in the way she explains the effects of trauma AND the way it encourages all of us to have compassion for one another and for ourselves. So many people are dealing with childhood wounds and trauma without proper support; it is much more prevalent than we realize 

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