- 4 months ago
Mental illness runs in my family. My parents are genocide survivors and struggle with their own mental illness such as high PTSD, anxiety, depression, paranoia. When raising us these were traits that each of my siblings picked up. We never learned to properly cope because we were never really given an example of how too. My siblings were also in the genocide and I am not sure if they also picked up some PTSD. But as we have gotten older my sisters and I have overcome a lot of obstacles and have worked to better our lives. Fighting against the voices in our heads and feelings that worked against us. We have come to the point that we are pretty stable. My brother, on the other hand, struggles a great deal with his mental illness. His anxiety, depression, self-pity, and anger keep him from seeking help. As he describes it he is a “deadbeat” but its all my parent’s fault. He has been freeloading off my family and as of now because each sibling is moving in a different direction in life (having kids, getting married, moving out of state) we explained to him that we will no longer be able to help him financially. This, of course, he did not take well, and because of my own mental illness, I struggle with, I fear the worst and can’t tell if its just my anxiety or reality. But my brother is also very toxic and manipulative but I do know his mental illness is at a greater intensity than mines. I am not sure how to help him without hurting myself. What would you do, what can you do? I personally seek help for my mental health but if I were to say schedule him an appointment with a therapist he would not go. He has this “me against the whole world” attitude which makes getting help hard for him. I also feel very guilty because apart of me coping with my mental illness has alot to do with having a supportive husband and group of friends. My brother has noone but family, and we have a hard time functioning together. Now he has to find a place of his own and a job and I feel guilty because I am not sure that he can but were not really able to co-exist in a healthy manner.