Post # 1
dh and i are social media averse but we were very surprised when we went on social media months later after the wedding there were barely any pictures or acknolwedgements of us posted from our wedding. some of our very close friends didn’t even bother to post any pictures or mention anything about being at our wedding yet they post mundane things the next day about other stuff. of course i’m not going to whine to their face but i’m just curious–would this offend other bees? just silly ramblings… kind of made us think that we’re not as important to some people as we thought. that’s all. just looking for an ear.
Post # 2
- Wedding: March 2016 - Surfer\'s Beach, Grand Cayman
When I’m at a wedding, I’m enjoying myself, I’m taking it in, I’m not snapping pics the whole time because that’s what the hired photographer is for. I rarely post photos or acknowledgements about someone’s wedding because I was there seeing it in person, congratulating them in person, giving them a gift in person. I dont often post photos of others on social media at all, its not personal.
Post # 3
Do these people usually post photos of the weddings they’ve attended?
I don’t think I would be upset, but that’s just a guess.
What matters is how they acted at the wedding, and whether you had a good time with them. Their reasons for not posting photos from your wedding are most likely simple and not related to how they feel about you.
Post # 4
- Wedding: June 2015 - Redondo Beach Historic Library
We had friends who didn’t post their pics of our wedding until weeks later. I think it’s a “when I get around to it” sort of thing. Though it bugged me too as I wanted to see it all!
Post # 5
If you’re social media averse, your friends probably assume you don’t want your private moments plastered all over some website where you hardly ever visit. You may want to ask people to send you photos they took.
Post # 6
since you’re not very prominent on social media, why would your guests assume you would be okay with posting your wedding photos? I don’t ever add wedding photos, or even take them because 1) I enjoy the wedding while I am there. I am sorry but I don’t want to have my phone in your face as you’re walking down the aisle. 2) you hired a photographer for a reason, let the pros do their job. 3) I always assume the couple would prefer their social media pictures be posted by them, or their photographer, not by me. I wouldn’t take this personally, in fact, I think your guests are very polite for not posting photos IMO.
Post # 7
I wouldn’t be offended at all.
I know when I am at a wedding I am too busy socialising and taking everything in then to take pictures and post on social media.
Also, a lot of couples these days request “unplugged” weddings so that the couple has the opportunity to select the photos they want on social media rather than random snaps from old bob before they have the opportunity to show the pro photos.
Post # 8
I wouldn’t want people posting pictures of mine, and so I do not post pictures of other people’s private events. That’s a given among my circle.
Lots of people are touchy about this, and you yourself say you and your DH are averse to social media. given this knowledge, a friend might very well abstain from posting.
That said, I don’t think posting pictures or not to social media says anything about their feelings for you or your wedding.
Post # 9
Some people, like yourselves, are not big posters on facebook. Maybe they thought you wanted to keep it private. I don’t think we had any friends post on facebook about the wedding, and it was not offensive to us.
Post # 10
Maybe they knew you were “social media averse” and were respecting your wishes? It seems people can’t win. Some couples are upset when thier guests post pics, others are upset when they don’t.
Post # 11
I never would, especially if I know the person is a private person who doesn’t post much on facebook.
It’s also bizarre to expect other people to post about you on their social media feeds (which you don’t even really use, and which is probably filled with people who dont know who you are). I know you’re just emotional and you yourself said it’s silly ramblings. Just letting you know.. this is another one of those things where you need to step back and remember your wedding is 10000x more important to you than anyone else.
Post # 12
I’m not on social media. I’d be upset if people were posting pics of my wedding. If you are social media averse, maybe they thought you were the same?
I am asking this is in a genuinely curious, non bitchy way: Was there anything related to your wedding that you like? Every thread you’ve started has been about some disappointment related to your wedding. Maybe take a break from wedding stuff and focus on enjoying married life?
Post # 13
I’m on social media but I’ve never posted pics of a friend’s wedding–not my info to share.
Post # 14
that’s true. although we did not want our entire wedding play by play on FB, i guess i was just taken aback at lack of any pictures or acknowledgement of our wedding by our friends. we invited our nearest and dearest friends and so when we see them posting photos and congrats of other friends weddings, but nothing for ours, we just wondered if our wedding was boring or something to others. that’s all.
Post # 15
thanks! i have been really enjoying married life! i admit my posts may seem unhappy and sad, but i just come here to bee to vent. it’s stuff i don’t say out loud to friends, i just felt this was a place to get those little ugly feelings out. i’ve found the bee posters are generally very helpful and supportive, and we all get each other, so we can say these things here. thanks for asking though, as DH and I are genuinely very happy together as husband and wife 🙂