(Closed) When normal people get weird during wedding planning

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
555 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Maybe they just don’t realize the email update is on. I’d be mortified if that was me, maybe you should give them a heads up?

Post # 4
7173 posts
Busy Beekeeper

Yikes!  When you feel ready to share – I’d love to know what other weird things they’ve been doing – because I hope I’m not doing anything strange to my friends!!! (and seriously random re: registry!!)  


Post # 6
204 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

She actually wanted to make sure you got the updates?? That’s so strange… I’d like to give her the benefit of the doubt and say that maybe she thinks she picked out really cool things and wants you to see them, but I really don’t think that’s the case.

About the dress shopping… you don’t have to be there every single time, no need. It was nice of you to have went before.

She’ll be back to normal, don’t worry. Maybe you can tell her that she seems stressed and you should have a “wedding free” girls night? That way you can have at least a glimpse of her back!! 🙂

Post # 7
1676 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

So weird!  That’s great that you’re rolling w/ the punches though and realize that she’ll probably go back to normal afterwards, rather than getting into some giant fight over this stuff.  Weddings make some people go loopy in the head. 

Post # 9
2695 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

I agree the registry thing is just really odd. When I first read it I thought oh they don’t know that the two websites are linked.  I had that happen to us on Facebook a couple years ago. I started a knot account for my SIL (she asked me to) and it showed up on my status updates as I created a knot account. My boyfriend (my hubby now) was freaked out because we had just started talking wedding!  But now after reading your reply… that is just plain weird. 

As for the other stuff, yep I’ve had a bride act that way about the dress shopping. Just go with it and it will get back to normal.

Post # 10
359 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

A friend of mine started acting really weird & horrible right after she got engaged. She would lash out if anyone reminded her that her fiance was part of the wedding too or that the guests mattered at all, but she would always get mad and go on a “IT’S MY DAY” tangent, so we all tried to let it go and not take it personally thinking that things would go back to normal after the wedding.

Unfortunately, that did not happen at all – She’s continued to get worse and worse to the point where she has lost her closest friends (including myself) because it’s not fun to be around someone who tries to insult everything about you (school, spirituality, relationship, etc) or is constantly competing with you. I’ve been debating for a long time whether I should try to explain why our friendship fell apart, but I don’t think she would listen and would try to blame me somehow.

Sorry to rant here. The best I can tell you is try to be supportive now and hope for the best. (Hopefully she’ll be just as understanding if you get a little nutty as the big day approaches!) Depending on how close you are with her/how you think she would react, you might consider very gently talking to her about some of the stuff (maybe try to say that some people might think its strange to post those kind of updates on FB, but not necessarily say you were offended). Its a very touchy area though, so tread lightly.

Good Luck!

Post # 11
837 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Yeah that registry thing is so rude!  I really hope that was an accident – though if it were a status update I doubt it was an accident.  I would intentionally buy them a useless gift that wasn’t on the registry lol

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