- 9 years ago
- Wedding: October 2011
I am new on here, but I thought what better place to ask for an opinion on wedding gift giving. I am sorry if this has been addressed before.
I was married about 9 months ago. I sent an invitation to a cousin and one to her her parents. I did not get so much as a reply card, congrats card or anything from them. We are not close, but I am closer with other people in the family and didn’t want to offend them by not inviting them.
I have now been invited to the cousin’s wedding. I will not be attending and have already sent my RSVP card (we live several states away and already had a prior engagement near that timeframe). The invitation had wedding registry information. Everything on the registry is either $10 or less or $75 or more. I don’t want to send a small collection of kitchen utensils as a gift and I don’t want to spend $100 plus on a gift, shipping and gift wrap.
Frankly, because not only the cousin, but her whole family, ignored my wedding and the fact that I had sent her a college graduation present which she did not send a thank you note for make me irritated about sending anything at all. Would I come across as cheap if I only sent a card? Mind you, we will not be attending the wedding or reception. I want to be the bigger person, but if I’m going to toss away a hundred bucks I’d rather send it to my nieces who could use it and would be appreciative.