When one BM is dating other BM’s ex

posted 2 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 17
408 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

The bride chose these girls as her bridesmaids which would imply they are her nearest and dearest. How did she not know that Parker’s exbf is now Tina’s boyfriend? How long ago was this? I have so many questions. My Maid of Honor lives across the country and I know what she ate for breakfast this morning so how does this bride not know the details of her bridesmaids love lives? I’m putting this one on the bride lol 

Post # 18
2723 posts
Sugar bee

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j_jaye :  It’s true that Luke could date whoever he pleased, but Tina was supposedly Parker’s friend. Dating a friend’s ex immediately after a break up is a shitty friend-move. 

Hopefully the two girls involved are mature enough to not make it about their own issues, they SHOULD just suck it up and be there for their friend that’s getting married. But it’s understandable to be a bit worried about the tension and want to find ways to manage that comfortably for everyone. 

Post # 19
305 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

My ex cheated on me with one of best friends.  Even though I’m now more happy than I’ve been and have moved on to bigger and better things, I will never forgive either of them and I refuse to be in the area as either of them.  


If if I was in Parker’s shoes, I would apologize to the bride and bow out of the wedding.  Her mental health is more important than a party.

Post # 20
5453 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2017

Its been 1.5 years? Time for your friend to get over it. Don’t worry about anything and try to have fun at the wedding.

Post # 21
1713 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

Wow, this Luke seems pretty  horrid.  Who sends their ex an email about their current so implying that they cheated on the ex with the current so? I’d probably encourage Parker to explain the issue to the bride and let her decide how to handle it. After all it’s her wedding and she’s friends with both. 

Post # 22
9147 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

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beckyrose25 :  

Without wanting to seem dismissive in any way , I think this is a pretty ordinary bump in Life’s Romantic  Road , plus its a year and a half ago.

If I had broken up with a guy and he started dating a mutual friend   I sure as hell would summon up enough pride to be Ok in public  a year and a half later,  wouldn’t   you? If the guy really did cheat with the friend , that is a bit different , that takes a lot of getting over, but I don’t   think you know this for sure do you ?  I still wouldn’t let anyone see I cared though .  

I woud keep right out of it  OP, as you are planning to do. They have several months to sort it out  out .    

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