(Closed) When people ask me… what should I say?

posted 6 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
9648 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2019

it is fine for you to say you aren’t ready yet! maybe say ‘at this stage in our lives we aren’t looking to start a family just yet’

Post # 4
1137 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

You can always just say you are enjoying married life a little longer, or just that your not ready. People will push the topic no matter what and all you can do is say not yet and move on.

Some people may be ready sooner than others. While my friends were all having kids a few years ago, Darling Husband and I are just having our first. Totally unplanned and we definitely don’t feel ready, but it’s a little late now..

Post # 5
2786 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

You’re overthinking this. Having a baby was obviously a priority for her, it isn’t for you. There is nothing wrong with that.

Just tell people you guys aren’t there yet. Easy peasy.

Post # 6
4893 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

Don’t talk about being too young. Other than that, just say “we” a lot. “We aren’t ready”, “We would like to travel first”, “We feel this isn’t the right time”, etc. 

Post # 8
2695 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

My girlfriend told everyone up front they weren’t having kids.  Not something they wanted.  So everyone quit asking.  They’ve been married for 7 years and they announced in February they were expecting!  We were all shocked needless to say but I think it was her way of avoiding people asking all the time.

I’m older and we married about 2 years ago.  When people asked me I would just say one day

Post # 9
4583 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I think a simple “We don’t feel ready” should suffice. 🙂

Post # 10
39 posts
  • Wedding: June 2012

I hate thisquestion I think it’s way too personal… People already ask us wheN we are having children it annoys me I just I mean just got married jeez…. Anyway how do you know the person is not desperately trying and it just doesn’t happen?? What about te people who have trouble concieving or maintaining a pregnancy? I think they would have a hard time with this question and I also feel like its asking you of you have a lot of sex.  Thats just me but I answer like this “we are still practicing” it shuts themup quickly

Post # 11
1284 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

I used to give a standard “it’s somewhere in the five year plan, we’ll get round to it one day”.

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