Post # 31
Hi bees, sorry I disappeared for a bit! Absolutely love your responses. From the bees who recognise they interrupt to the bees like me who struggle with interruption, I definitely feel more positive about the whole subject. It’s very cool when people are able to reflect and say ‘actually I do that!’ 🙂
Also loved reading peoples different explanations for why people interrupt particularly the contrast between men and women. Thanks again ladies!
Post # 32
This happens to me frequently. I was in school recently where we often had to do group assignments. More often than not I just ended up sat there in silence working on the assignment by myself, as these ladies would all talk over each other, getting louder and louder so that their point could be heard…eventually I had to cover my ears as they were not aware of their volume.
I was asked after about the 5th time of my doing this what I was doing; I replied as calmly as I could in a respectable “inside voice” that their discussions were hurting my ears, and as they barely came up for air I did not have the opportunity to give my thoughts on the assignements, so I was working on it by myself.
They went back to their “discussion” and not one of them really acknowledged what I had said, or even asked for my input. I felt absolutely awful, but I approached the teacher and said while I understand the merit of working in groups, I can not be in a group of people who all believe themselves to be Alpha, enjoy shouting at each other, and do not actually get the work done because they can not agree on any one point.
As a side note, I also suffer from Anxiety and PTSD so while I typically struggle in these situations anyway, I had really attempted to try and be a team player, but just couldn’t do it. I am enjoying reading replies to this thread, hopefully I will have the guts to speak up for myself…eek!!
Post # 33
I call it “active listening” the Mr calls it “rude” 🙂 I know it annoys him, but I feel like sometimes there are little questions that I have that would make me understand the story better, so I need to know NOW. For example, if he is telling me a story about ‘Mike’ I will interrupt to know which Mike, because I feel like then I will have a better understanding of the story. Obviously because it does annoy him, and he gets agitated so infrequently I do try and rein it in around him.
Interestingly enough, other people have told me what a great listener I am… I wonder if they just need a wall to talk to, and I don’t care as much so I don’t really feel I need the back-story – although, it could be because they are women and will tell you the back-story without prompting. Who knows?