(Closed) When people who know you are in a relationship try to "hook you up"

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
3569 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Yeah, when she is sober tell her not to do that again. She sounds annoying.

Post # 4
2394 posts
Buzzing bee


Yes it would annoy me, yes I would find that disrespectful.

I would find ways to spend less time and energy on this cousin, especially when she’s drinking.

I think this is a good example of how marriage can — in some cases — change the friendships and relationships you have with others.

There are the friendships/relationships you invest in before marriage, and there are the ones that are left over (worth saving and continuing) after marriage.

True friends — you keep them around throughout your life.

The more superficial relationships with people who have very different values — those are the ones who get cut loose.


Post # 5
1671 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@leisha606:  Yeah, a regular customer at work was grilling me about why I didn’t marry one of my coworkers instead of my husband. I chuckled it off, but was actually a bit annoyed. Uh, my husband is not interchangeable. Meh.

Post # 6
2504 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

What the heck? That sounds annoying!

Post # 7
5400 posts
Bee Keeper

It sounds like she doesn’t like your boyfriend and is being passive aggressive about it by suggesting other “options.” I would have an honest conversation with her when you’re both sober. 

Post # 8
2532 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I would just go up to THE GUY and say, “I’m sorry that my cousin seems to think I’m available, but I am most certainly not available and not interested.
Embarass him into leaving you alone since he seems to think it’s OK to give his phone to other people to bug you with – ugh.

Poo poo to your cousin since there’s nothing you can really do to stop her (and besides – she was drunk so there’s really nothing you can do besides block his number)

Post # 9
12247 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

My drunk mother tried to set up one of my lesbian freinds in a commited relationship with the bartender at our wedding. Luckily, both parties found it funny!

Post # 12
378 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

my circle of friends really don’t like one of our guy friends girl friend. She’s kind of annoying, demanding and not fun. Lol. We would never try to set him up, but she totally doesn’t mesh with our group and frankly i don’t see what he sees in her. 


Its rude use to set up someone already taken, but as a friend it’s hard to see someone you care about possibly making a bad choice in the long run. Who knows. 

Post # 13
1956 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Yep, but only once. It was someone who I don’t speak to anymore, as a result. “I’m sorry, I didn’t think you were that serious.” WE HAD JUST GOTTEN ENGAGED. o.o

Post # 14
720 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Make sure the guy knows you’re not interested. Block his number in case she tries the same thing again. Have an honest, sober, direct conversation with your cousin. Let her know that if she does something like that again, you’ll block her number too. Her behaviour is disrespectful and inappropriate.

Post # 15
708 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

My mom STILL does this to my sister…and she and her boyfriend have been together for 9 years. 

Post # 16
9681 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

@leisha606:  I would stop talking to anyone who didn’t respect my marriage. Drunk or not, family or not. I don’t have time for that shit. Also, look what it implies the person thinks about you. So I’m a cheater am I? Yeah, no. 

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