(Closed) “When pigs fly…..”

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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8353 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

Maybe he was talking about the price???

Post # 5
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39 posts
Newbee

I’m sorry to hear that.  Was he really joking, or was he serious?  I read some of your previous posts, and I’m concerned that he may not be joking.  Here’s a question for you – If he says that he loves you and plans to marry you but doesn’t want to get married for another 5 years (so he’ll be 29, right?), what would you say?  I think he’s young and that may be an issue.  Just my two cents. ๐Ÿ™

Post # 7
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2010

Don’t buy your own ring. I think it’s time for you two to have a serious talk about where you are going. When guys joke like that, there’s always a little bit of truth there (or even a lot).

Post # 9
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2010

Get out now. You know you should.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Rude!

I don’t know, without actually knowing either of you, it’s hard to have an opinion on whether he was joking or serious. I hope he was joking though.

Maybe he doesn’t want to look at rings with you, maybe he wants to pick one out on his own?? Could that have been what he meant? My partner does not want my input into him buying my ring at all, it sounds like something he’d say!

Post # 11
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Bumble bee

Its time to leave… that is a really bad sign. Why would you want to be with/move toward marriage with someone who doesn’t have the same desire to marry you? I am so sorry ๐Ÿ™

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I think you need to have a serious heart to heart. Tell him exactly how you feel and what you need. I had to do that with the b/f in order for him to set a time line. I think my actual wording was something like, I’m not trying to force you to marry me, but this is how our current relationship makes me feel.  i would tell him exactly how you feel, and how he can fix that. I mean he shouldn’t want you to be in a relationship that makes you feel crummy. He should also be upfront about where he sees the relationship going and whether you’re wasting your time.

 

I haven’t read your other posts…but do you think he was joking? I mean guys are dumb, sometimes they don’t see how insensitive they’re being. You know your b/f better than us…so if he was joking let him apologize and get talking and see if you’re on the same page.  If you’re not on the same page…see if it’s something you can deal with and if not, you know what you need to do.

Post # 13
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Helper bee

 We’re age twins, and we’re BOTH too old for this sh*t right?  Let the boy have his toys and find yourself a mature man who you don’t need to keep an eye on.

Dude, you know what you should be doing.

And if you do want to give him a chance, then you schedule in a talk in advance.  “We are going to sit down on Friday night and discuss this”.  That way he has an out if he doesn’t want to, and you have a reason to leave – or he has a chance to turn up in his big boy pants.

Sorry if that was harsh. ๐Ÿ˜ฎ

Post # 14
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Helper bee

Actually, reading your previous posts, it sounds like you have had this conversation already (a few times).  And you didn’t get the answers you wanted.  So why are you still with him?

 

 I think you are caught in a cycle of dependency and won’t let go.  I’m really sorry that this is happening and it must be painful. ๐Ÿ™  You have to rip that band-aid off…

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Maybe this is going to sound harsh, but, why are you even talking about rings at this point?  Your previous posts are all about wanting to leave, but having to stay because of your financial situation. You use words like “hate” and “disgust” when talking about him… and it seemed from your last post that you two were together, because you couldn’t afford to be without him, not because you actually enjoy being with him anymore.

You’d probably both be happier if you stopped talking about getting married, and just tried to get back on your on feet so that you can get out of this.  Just my two cents.

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

Time to leave, girl. Good luck.

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