(Closed) When reality hit, what did you "give up"?

posted 4 years ago in Reception
Post # 2
2511 posts
Sugar bee

BurlapnLace:  We’re having a super small wedding so we got rid of a lot of things from the get-go. But some of the things we had our heart “set on” we just don’t care.

Since we’d be saving so much we were going to hire a really good photographer. Meh, no thanks. Not shelling out thousands of dollars when all we really want is a picture of us kissing. Someone will get that. If not, oh well.

We, well he, wanted to have a ton of real flowers (he likes the smell). Now it’ll probably just be my bouquet and maybe one or two decorations. Flowers are stupid expensive and we don’t care!


Post # 3
1913 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Dallas, TX

Robes for bridesmaids, a guest book, little signs for the reception…That’s what I can think of off the top of my head. By the time the wedding week rolled around things just started dropping off my list because I knew there wasn’t time. To be perfectly honest, I did not care or miss anything on the big day. I was way too wrapped up with the emotions of getting married/being married to care about anything other than my husband and guests.

Post # 5
9548 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

Early on I separated my DIYs into “must do” and “would really like to do” and “if I have time”. All of the “must do” list got done and most of the “would really like to do” list but almost nothing from the “if I have time” list. We didn’t get to making signs with instructions for lawn games. I was going to make a hairpiece but I ran out of time, so I just borrowed one from my step-sister. I was going to get a lighter shade of lipstick, but ran out of time and the one I used was fine. The only thing I really regret is that I was going to go out to lunch at an awesome restaurant with a bunch of people the day before the wedding but I was too busy and we ended up canceling. 

Post # 6
2945 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Get away vehicle/day of transpertation.  I totally had my heart set on finding a classic car of some sort for our wedding day.  That flew out the window when we couldn’t find it.  Then we decided maybe we could put that money towards a bus or something.  I don’t even remember the exact financial emergency that came up, but we decided that what ever it was more important than transpertation for our wedding.   We used my parent’s SUV to get to our reception because it was big enough to fit my dress. 

Post # 7
66 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

The only thing I really “gave up” was a monogram spotlight on our dance floor. Everything else that was left out fell under the “would be nice, but don’t have to have” category. My “must have” list was fairly small, but my DJ/Lighting guy flaked out 1 month before my wedding (lighting was pretty much a main decor) and the folks we went with were more expensive and didn’t include a monogram spotlight. In the end, it wasn’t missed at all.

Post # 10
353 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

– candy bar

– photobooth

– someone to do our table decorations (we’re doing them ourselves for 1/5 of the cost!)

– robes for bridesmaids to get ready in

– my jewellery (I’m borrowing from family, so actually it turns out to be a good thing!)

– a ‘proper’ guestbook (we’ve ended up getting a poster though which is awesome!)

Post # 11
52 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 2014 - The Boatshed Restaurant

BurlapnLace:  Haha I love some of your reactions to not having some things! Priceless!

We haven’t had to give up too much, as we’ve sourced from friends and family where possible.

We’re having good friends as our witnesses…no bridesmaids or groomsmen (saved heaps on matching clothes).

We were planning on having a friend who is an emerging photographer do the wedding photos, but he is going home to NZ for Christmas…so I asked around and got an amazing deal on a local photographer (the business owner and trainee will be doing photos, as the trainee will be doing her first wedding they charged us nothing really…we saved about $3000!).

Our friend is the wedding DJ and gave us a discount.

Our close friend is a wedding dressmaker, so the only cost was for the fabric (which wasn’t cheap I might add).

My Mum was a wedding florist, so she’s doing my bouquet.

The venue we’re using do all the food, drinks, decor, security etc. for a great price.

The only thing we won’t have is a honeymoon straight after the wedding day, because by FI’s family are coming over from London so we can’t abandon them for Christmas We’re planning a lovely big Christmas and New Year with everyone and will hopefully go for a honeymoon on our first anniversary (when I’m done with medical school!).

Post # 12
3846 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

BurlapnLace:  So far we’ve given up sequin tablecloths…just too damn expensive. 

Post # 13
398 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2014 - Norton Country Club

Due to budget:

Smaller, simpler venue… but at least we can feed everyone now.

Floral centerpieces- in Massachusetts, in December? Yeah, no.  We’ll get ornaments and you’ll like it. 

Shortened honeymoon… stupid work. 


Post # 14
1612 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

BurlapnLace:  haha! Yes I’ve forgotten many of the ideas I had early on. Mostly for my sanity!!

Post # 15
1221 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

We’re still at the beginning of planning so I haven’t had to cut anything yet, but it’s comforting reading this thread to know that in the end, I won’t miss anything that doesn’t happen.

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