(Closed) When Sexual Appetites Don't Match…

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Does your sexual appetite and needs match your SO?
    No, not at all and it causes a lot of arguments/tension. : (36 votes)
    18 %
    No, but one or both of us adjusts so there is no tension. : (53 votes)
    26 %
    No, but it doesn't bother us. : (9 votes)
    4 %
    Yes in some ways, no in others, but nothing major. : (88 votes)
    44 %
    Yes, we are a perfect match in a sexual sense. : (16 votes)
    8 %
  • Post # 3
    6124 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    We match libidos and styles more often than not.  He initiates more, but I do at times.  I would say our expectations are the same going into the encounter too.

    Post # 4
    111 posts
    Blushing bee

    He wants sex more frequently than I do. I have to be in the right mood, but when I am we usually have sex for a few hours. Other than him wanting it more often than me I’d say we’re sexually compatible πŸ™‚

    Post # 5
    164 posts
    Blushing bee

    I probably want it more than he does on a regular basis, but he’s never refused my advances …so if I just initiate, he’ll totally get into it. And vice versa for sure, though I can’t think of a time when he’s jumped things off when I wasn’t already thinking about it πŸ˜› (Except for his nutty habit of starting something in his sleep which is like, my favorite thing EVER lol.)


    In terms of needs during the act, we are on the same page. Even if we’re in the mood for different things, we’re both really GGG so it’s always hot πŸ™‚

    Post # 6
    2523 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    We both are rabbits, and like longer sessions of sex. We prefer to have sex everyday.

    If he comes before me, no big deal…he knows how to finish me off in other ways! πŸ˜‰

    Post # 7
    1541 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    He wants more sex, but I think that’s pretty common. We do it about 1-3x per week, but we NEVER have quickies. If we did, we may have sex more often, but I am kinda sensitive down there, so if we have sex that lasts awhile, I’ll get a little tender the next day.

    I’m happy with our sex life though!

    Post # 8
    2488 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I never want to have sex and when I do it last a few seconds then I’m like oh no I don’t want to do this.

    I love it when it gets into it most the time.

    althought I take forever and usually we have to have some out side help from my “little buddy” to santisfy me. πŸ™

    I feel awful and he hates it but.. I just have apparently no labido.


    Post # 9
    237 posts
    Helper bee

    @alishaloo:  I’m sure you have a libido. You may just not know what you like yet and if you’re not excited about sex, maybe he doesn’t know what to do for you yet. You should check out this website. It’s pretty cool. All about better orgasms, sex education (NSFW).


    Post # 10
    14 posts
    • Wedding: August 2013

    i guess we are both horn balls  we match pretty nicely

    Post # 11
    870 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    My libido is (a lot) higher than his.  It doesn’t bother me most of the time.  Occassionally I’ll get a little frustrated that I wanna do it and he doesn’t, but it’s not a big deal.  Also, I like a lot of foreplay/making out beforehand.  He likes a little, but way less than me.

    Post # 12
    4868 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2018

    Ours do for the most part. He likes quickies and I just can’t get into it. I don’t need to go on for hours, but a solid 20-25 minutes is ideal for me. 

    Post # 13
    99 posts
    Worker bee

    Nope not at all, causes tons of fights. He wants it waaay more than me. I’d be content with 2-4 times a month. It hurts, so I get scared. He is becoming more understanding though with the fact that it hurts and I give in as much as I can. Usually we end before he climaxes as it hurts me too much.

    Post # 14
    99 posts
    Worker bee

    @alishaloo:  I’m the same way as you. The “little buddy” usualy comes into play.

    Post # 15
    1221 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2013 - Franklin Plaza

    I think we are both pretty much on the same page as far as sex goes.  

    Post # 16
    1332 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    We go in cycles…although our style is the same when we each want it syncs about 75% of the time, the other time we are completely off.

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