(Closed) When should I ask guests to RSVP by?

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
5786 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

I’m doing 4 weeks, I want a buffer since a decent portion of guests always seem to miss the deadline.

Post # 4
7587 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

Normal is 3 weeks prior. However, if your out of town guest heavy you may want to request them earlier in order to allow time for mail delivery.  People will send them the day of and a couple days after your requested date, so make sure you give yourself enough time if it’s going to take a week by mail to get to you.

Post # 6
11325 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

I made my RSVP deadline 1 month prior because that is when room blocks have to be booked (and like 90% of our people are coming in from out of town)… so we wanted people to make sure they booked in time. 

Post # 7
3671 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

Ours is a little over three weeks.  We need a count and menu options by two weeks (it’s preferred, not required, but still) so we figured it’d give us a week to contact those that hadn’t responded.  We only invited 46 though so that shouldn’t take us long. 

Post # 8
7695 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

Our deadline was 5 weeks before – July 14 for our August 21 wedding. It worked out welll because it still gave a good amount of time before the wedding to follow up with the RSVP stragglers (which there will be!)

Post # 9
251 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

We did 4 weeks before! That worked great for us.

Our venues needed a final head count by 3 weeks before, so the extra week gave us some time to contact those who never sent their RSVP card in. (love them! : ))

Post # 10
3314 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I did 4 weeks prior so that I would have 3 weeks to call the people that didn’t RSVP….. And I knew that there would be people.  

Post # 11
659 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I did the week the room blocks ended – about 3.5 weeks prior.  My parents were shocked that invites get sent out so far out these days…I figure that if you give people 3-4 weeks to plan to book their room, etc, then they can figure out if they price compare (if they want), find a flight if they need it, etc.  it’s not fair to give people 2 weeks to book everything, and then the bride (and groom) 2 weeks to assign tables, give counts, etc – especially if it’s a DIY heavy wedding. 

My wedding is 20 March, RSVPs are due Feb 11 (hotel block at the wedding site closes Feb 16) and I am sending out the invites sometime in the first week of January…..

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