(Closed) when should i ask people to be in the wedding party…

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
4006 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

yes, it is too soon to ask. Generally, people around her say aabout 9 months out is a good time frame. Don’t do it more than a year out. This is generally because freidnships change, things happen, and it will save you lots of possible drama to wait

Yes, you can have 2 Maid/Matron of Honor. You just tell them. Lots of people have 2 these days

Post # 4
2708 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Glasgowbound:  Agreed

Yes, it is too soon to ask.  I would wait until 9-12 months before the wedding.  Things happens and friendships change.  If you poke around the Bridesmaid or Best Man board you’ll find lots of threads about brides regretting their choice in BMs because they asked too early and the friendship has since fizzled.  As a result, the friend isn’t as interested and unresonpsive and lots of drama and stress ensues.

It’s definitely ok to have 2 MOHs.  As far as making it clear that you’ll have 2, I’d say something like,

“Hey friend, I have a question for you.  I was thinking about my Bridal Party and I want to break tradition and have a maid of honor and a man of honor.  So-and-so is going to be my maid/man of honor and I was hoping you’d be my maid/man of honor.”


Post # 5
245 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Ask them in August, September of 2013.


I like the idea of asking them by sending a cute little bridesmaid card to their homes and have a cute little rhyming poem in it sorta along the lines of saying you are splitting the load between them two. I love to write poems, and write them on the daily, if you want some help or need to send in something you have in mind, I can honestly help write it for you, just message me and I would be glad to help 🙂

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