Post # 1
I asked this before but didnt get any answers….(please answer the bold/underlined questions…im lost…)
We got engaged in Aug 2012 the wedding isnt untill Oct 2014. I still havent asked anyone to be in the wedding yet. When should I ask?
I would love my one girl friend to be a Maid/Matron of Honor, she would be PERFECT but i have a best Male friend who ive known over 13years (we made a pact years ago that we would be in each others wedding- and him being my bestie i would want him as my MOH), but he has a lot on his plate already with his own life and little family, so i was thinking about maybe having 2 MOH’s, maybe split the load? My Fiance likes the idea of haveing both my besties as my Maid/Matron of Honor and having both stand on my side , but how/when do i go about asking them to be in the wedding? how do you say “im going to have 2 MOH” to each of them? we are still a year and a half out from the wedding date. Is it to soon to ask now??
Post # 3
yes, it is too soon to ask. Generally, people around her say aabout 9 months out is a good time frame. Don’t do it more than a year out. This is generally because freidnships change, things happen, and it will save you lots of possible drama to wait
Yes, you can have 2 Maid/Matron of Honor. You just tell them. Lots of people have 2 these days
Post # 4
Yes, it is too soon to ask. I would wait until 9-12 months before the wedding. Things happens and friendships change. If you poke around the Bridesmaid or Best Man board you’ll find lots of threads about brides regretting their choice in BMs because they asked too early and the friendship has since fizzled. As a result, the friend isn’t as interested and unresonpsive and lots of drama and stress ensues.
It’s definitely ok to have 2 MOHs. As far as making it clear that you’ll have 2, I’d say something like,
“Hey friend, I have a question for you. I was thinking about my Bridal Party and I want to break tradition and have a maid of honor and a man of honor. So-and-so is going to be my maid/man of honor and I was hoping you’d be my maid/man of honor.”
Post # 5
Ask them in August, September of 2013.
I like the idea of asking them by sending a cute little bridesmaid card to their homes and have a cute little rhyming poem in it sorta along the lines of saying you are splitting the load between them two. I love to write poems, and write them on the daily, if you want some help or need to send in something you have in mind, I can honestly help write it for you, just message me and I would be glad to help 🙂