Post # 1
I am a plus sized bee and am in the process of losing weight. I had started losing weight in June of last year well before the proposal and have lost about 30lbs so far.
Optimally, I would lose at least another 30 before my wedding day (November ’08). 40lbs would be ideal. So this leaves me wondering when should I shop for my dress? I heard somewhere (can’t remember where) that for brides losing weight, its fine to shop when you are heavier bc your body type wont change. So if you are an hour glass at 200lbs you’d still be an hour glass at 150, so the dress style you choose will look good on your body type heavier or lighter. (I’m a very top heavy hourglass. Though my top has deflated some, it is still quite sizeable in proportion to the rest of my body)
Recently I was told to wait bc my body will be changing so much and I should lose the weight before trying on dresses.
Now I am confused.
I am on a strict budget and the idea of overhauling my dress with alterations scares me bc that sounds pretty expensive. resources indicate I should have my dress ordered in May to insure enough time to get my gown and have it fitted before my wedidng.
A consultant with David’s Bridal told me that if i ordered my dress and it was too large then it could be altered or exchanged for a smaller size. I am not sure if I trust her. Was this just a selling tactic?
So when do you think I should order my dress? Has anyone exchanged their dress for another size close to their wedding date?
For any bees who lost any weight before their wedding, when did you order your dress?
Post # 3
The standard I’ve been told is 6 months to give time for alterations. I say ask a few seamstresses/alteration shops what recommend as an absolute minimum time to get something altered and returned. Figure there’s a point at which you have to have the dress (since alterations take time) even if you continue to lose weight.
Post # 4
David’s Bridal does not allow returns/exchanges. It right on their website. Double check with the store before purchasing anything. However, she is correct about May being the absolute latest cutoff for ordering/alterations, etc. I’m going through a similar situation. I want to lose weight, but am afraid that I won’t be able to alter down well…
Post # 5
the david’s bridal woman is right, yes you can! but you have to make sure you get the right kind of dress that can be easily taken in and out. look for a seam in the back.. or something like that. talk to a seamstress!
Post # 6
so i guess theres no way i can save dollars here by having minimum alterations done……
i have always wanted a corseted style gown. i’m thinking that wouldnt require any alteration. or would it?
Post # 7
A corset style gown will give you more leeway in terms of alterations, since you can lace it tighter or looser, and if it’s too small they can add a panel in the back because of the way the seams will work. But lacing can only do so much in terms of fit, so try to get it close to your final size.
As for body shape, you’ll probably keep mostly the same shape, but only you know where the weight will come off. I tend to lose weight in my thighs, not my upper body, so losing weight wouldn’t have made a difference in how my dress fit. For you it’s probably different. I’d order your gown in May, but keep an eye out on eBay or other sites where the same or a similar gown might be available, in case you really do need a completely different dress fast in November!
Post # 8
Wow, your story sounds very similar to mine.
I also set a weight loss goal of 60+ pounds when I got engaged in August 2005. I bought my Alfred Angelo corset style dress in June 2006 for my July 2007 and had already dropped 35 lbs. At the time of my first fitting(April 2007), I was down another 25 lbs and all my dress needed was a bustle.
Congrats on the weight loss!
Post # 9
I’m a plus size bee also.
As the pp said, corset style gowns definately give you a little extra space when losing weight. That being said, I’ve always had a weird track of weight loss… for example, there was one time I literally dropped 40 lbs in 3 months, then gained like 50 in two (medication- boo), lost 20 over 4 or 5 months, but this time, oh it is sooo coming off sloe. And I’m not really doing much different, except for weird sleep schedules due to grad school. But I’m working out at least a few times weekly while following weight watchers. And it is coming off. so. darn. slow.
So what did I do for a dress? I ordered two dresses from lane bryant.com during a clearance sale for $12 each (15 then I used a coupon- yes I’m that cheap!) in sizes 18 and 20, then I bought another dress on ebay that is a jcrew for $25 that was supposed to be knee length (for possible rehearsal dinner) but ended up being a long gown in a size 16. Now I’m having an eyelet dress custom made to fit me… I found a local seamstress who is a friend of FMIL that works out of her home, (yes I have a contract) and will be making me a version of my priscilla of boston dream dress in eyelet… but it isn’t a silk eyelet, it’s white cotton daisy kind of print (7pt) with an ivory shantung lining/underlayer to soften the white white of the eyelet. So if the eyelet doesn’t work out or my weight loss messes up the fit, I have the backup dresses from lane bryant. I don’t LOVE them, but for $12 I can get over that by making minor alterations to the sash and bodice- not through a bridal salon! their prices are insane and the work is often shoddy!
Post # 10
i ordered mine in a size smaller than what i was at the time i ordered it since like all of us – i was dieting and exercising also. i just wanted the comfort of knowing it was checked off my list and i was in love with the dress – would you know it – it was the last dress i tried on after like 12 of them! the alterations are going to depend on the simplicity of the dress (one piece sheath dress versus full blown ball gown)
i’d order it at least 6-8 months depending on the time of year your wedding is – if it’s a spring or summer wedding, it takes a litle longer for them to get it to you.
i would confirm in writing with the manager of that particular david’s. i’ve had nothing but BAD experiences with them (when i was a BM) CONGRATS on the weight loss and HAPPY DRESS SHOPPING!!