Post # 1
Her parents are having a big 50th anniversary party the week after I was planning to propose. Would our engagement steal thunder from her parents’ celebration–or add to it? Should I wait to propose until after the party? (FYI I’m 64, she’s 45)
Post # 2
I would reccommend not doing it at the party, only because I have seen several posts on the Bee in the past about people getting offended that people are getting engaged at their parties/weddings/birthdays/events.
However, if you propose the week before the party, I think that would be fine. As long as its not the day of or the day before.
Post # 3
Maybe ask her parents what they think…I would assume you are going to ask permission first. If they are all for it then I say do it. If they seem a little unsure then just say you wanted their advise on when would be a good time…getting their opinion would matter.
Post # 4
Wasn’t planning on asking permission at our ages. If I think there is a problem a week before the party, I’ll wait until the day after…but I’ll miss schmoozing with the new relatives as an engaged couple.
Post # 5
- Wedding: March 2014 - A castle!
I would do it before the party so you can announce you engagement to everyone there!
Post # 6
FutureDrAtkins: agreed, it would be great for everybody to celebrate together.
timscape: In regards to asking for permission, I personally don’t think it’s required at any age if you’re an adult, pretty sure my dad would have laughed at my FI if he had asked for permission. Good luck and congrats!
Post # 7
So nice, medgirlny. Thank you!
Post # 8
I think it would be nice if you waited until you leave the party and then tell her how beautiful her parents’ marriage is after 50 years and how you want to grow old with her 🙂 then propose
Post # 9
- Wedding: November 2014 - 11/15/14-Vineyard
timscape: do it the week before!!
Post # 10
yumcheez, very romantic, but I’m already “old” and putting it your way is not quite it. But thanks!
Post # 11
timscape: I don’t think it will steal thunder at all (unless there is animosity between you and her parents).
Post # 12
Week before. Have your moment with her. Let her parents have their moment.
Post # 13
I think the week before would be fine. And I think she will enjoy getting to gush about it at the party. I don’t think it will steal any thunder from them.
Post # 14
Precisely what I was hoping you’d say, fe0208! I think so too.
Post # 15
I would mention it to the parents, not for permission, just to see if it would offend them in any way. If you would make them upset, I am guessing your gf would want you to wait a week. No point in creating unnecessary conflict. Besides, chances are they will be excited!