When should I send my Save the Dates?

posted 2 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
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Busy Beekeeper

I think 9-10 months for an STD is fine. Just be mindful of the holidays. You might be better off waiting until January just to get past the holiday mail crunch and ensuring your Save-The-Date Cards actually arrive! 

Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

Your situation sounds exactly like mine.  It was my hometown- 2.5 hours from where we currently live, with most people being out of town.  It was also a touristy area.

We sent ours about 9.5 months before the wedding.  That worked well!  I usually hear 9-12 month in advance of the wedding for desitination/domestic destination weddings.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

nwilbur1 :  anything under 12 months is fine (i say 12 months to avoid any confusion about when the wedding is – you’d be shocked how many people don’t look at the year when they get a STD). you’ll have one of two kinds of guests: those that plan ahead, and those that don’t. those that plan ahead will be happy to get your STD as soon as possible. those that don’t plan ahead, likely won’t even mark off their calendars so when you send the STD is irrelevant.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

nwilbur1 :  I think that’s fine.

I would either send in November or wait until January, that way you miss the December holiday mail craziness. 

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

nwilbur1 :  We have the same problem with our hotel…Our wedding isn’t until the end of Sept but our hotel block is only guaranteed until the end of July. So we will likely send ours out a tad early also! 

Our venue is very touristy and so I think the hotel just wants to make sure if we don’t book all our block they have additional options for getting it booked!

Post # 8
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

nwilbur1 :  I asked my wedding planner this question (since my family will be flying across the world to LA to attend this wedding) and she told me that actually since date is set in stone, i could just send out the STD immediately to lock down everyone’s calendars. She then told me that the formal invitations go out about 3 – 6 months before the wedding. I’m sure you can do the same (: 

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