Post # 16
- Wedding: September 2013 - Ontario, Canada
Meant2Bee: My advice is slightly different from PP as I personally think that reading to much and charting too early can make you stressed out, especially if you don’t get pregnant straight away when you start to TTC. I have a friend at work who has been researcing for years, knows everything, and has already picked out her cot and buggy etc and they have just started TTC 3 months ago and she is already SUPER stressed that it hasn’t happened yet. I don’t think that helps you get pregnant at all, rather the opposite.
My advice at this point is to firstly, get yourself in the best physical shape you can be. As in, if you smoke – quit now, get started on a healthy diet with a good range of nutrients high in things like folic acid, calcium, iron, vitamin C, B, and D. Also get excercising and get as close to your ideal weight as possible if need be. Being pregnant and giving birth is a huge strain on your body and you will benefit from all the strenght you can get. It is also so important that your folic acid and iron levels are good before you actually get pregnant to minimise risks. Topping this up naturally now is one of the best things you can do.
Secondly, look at your finances and be realistic about how much having a baby will cost you including looking at what your insurance covers, what the maternity leave policy at your work is etc.
Basically what I am saying is that reading about labour, pain and aches in pregnancy, possible problems that can occur with you or with baby along the way etc can, in my opinion, wait until you are actually pregnant or at least actively TTC.
Post # 17
MrsGo: I agree with you 100%.
OP, I personally would not read up on pregnancy. As long as you understand the basic biology of it (I’m sure you do, but just in case… 🙂 ), you’re good. Yes, take prenatals, get yourself healthy, but don’t overthink it at this point.
Post # 18
I think it’s good to be prepared, especially in the financial aspect. Daycare can be crazy expensive and you don’t want to be freaking out about it after you’re already pregnant.
I don’t think it’s necessary to go research every baby product and sleep method out there, but having a good understanding of what labor is really like, how it will change your body, how maternity leave works, etc. is a good thing IMO.
Post # 19
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
Another vote for taking charge of your fertility. And talk to your doctor now, to see if there are any recommendations on lifestyle changes, etc., you should do beforehand. I also liked the mayo clinic guide to pregnancy- pretty straightforward, and not scary. One thing I didn’t know ahead of time were foods I’d have to give up after becoming pregnant (certain cheeses, for example), so some of that info would have been useful before my first ob appointment.
Post # 20
Thank you all for your wonderful comments! I’ve purchased the book “taking charge of your fertility”. I want to learn more about my body before I’m actually pregnant. That’s all I’m going to do for now. Once were at the one year mark I’ll start to take more steps.
Post # 21
Meant2Bee: Don’t take Folic Acid. Many woman can’t process Folic Acid, so take Folate instead. If you are one of the 50% of women who can’t process Folic Acid, you might have a higher rate of MC.
Post # 22
Start learning asap. You don’t have to get eyeball-deep in books and reports and studies, but learn some stuff. Watch birth videos on youtube, find out proper terms for stuff. I’ve been doing this for a few years now, for fun. A girl I know on facebook got pregnant accidentally and was always posting dumb stuff that any person who is bringing a child into the world should know.
There is nothing good about being ignorant about your own body. Learning over time is also easier than learning in a squished time frame when you’re already pregnant.
Post # 23
Miss Apricot: I shouldn’t admit to this but I LOL’d at this:
One of my colleagues (I’m a teacher) teaches the Child Development courses. She said it is astounding the number of students-even the pregnant teenagers in the class-who thought you could get pregnant from oral or anal sex. Wow.
So I wonder if it’s something their parents have told them to keep them from having any kind of sex until they were married.
Anyway, I have also been fascinated with pregnancy and how life is created and I also thought when the time comes it won’t take long. 16 months into ttcing makes me wonder what else I can do to improve my fertility (I’ve been seeing a Dr now), but maybe I could get an extra boost from reading up on taking control of my fertility.