(Closed) When should I tell people about my pregnancy?

posted 6 years ago in Pregnancy
  • poll: Should I tell?
    Yes, but not at the shower so you won't take the spotlight off the bride-to-be : (55 votes)
    50 %
    Yes but, make sure the guests at the party don't make a big deal out of it (down-play it) : (8 votes)
    7 %
    No, but if people happen to ask: don't deny it : (19 votes)
    17 %
    NO! Change dresses if you have to: you're not 100% ready to tell : (29 votes)
    26 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    5296 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: January 1993

    I would tell before the shower vs. at the shower or letting it become obvious to people that day. 

    Otherwise, what about dresses like these?

    Post # 4
    Member
    1482 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I can’t remember, did you do your 12 week NT scan yet? A lot of the risk for miscarriage goes down after 12 weeks, so by 14 you should be in a good position to tell people. We told people between 12-14 weeks after our 12 week ultrasound.

    If you do decide to tell, then definitely get the news out prior to the shower so that the focus is back on the bride once the event comes around. Or, if you’re not ready to tell, what about this cute dress (or one with a similar cut?)

    http://www.modcloth.com/shop/dresses/fiddle-black-dress

     

    Post # 5
    Member
    11391 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2010

    If you are not 100% ready to tell people just yet then don’t. Try to hide it the best you can by getting a new dress! If you are ready then tell them BEFORE the shower not AT the shower..

    Congratulations btw! 🙂

    Post # 6
    Member
    1560 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    I 100% agree with Mrs.Estep!!! If you’re not ready, DON’T. It’s your decision. BUT–if you do tell them, spill the beans before the shower so you aren’t stealing the bride’s thunder (everyone should have their moment, and you should have YOUR special moment for this as well!!).

    If you choose not to say anything, just find a new dress. It doesn’t have to be the crazy-tight dress like what she wore, just a black dress. Maybe find a pretty flower pin to put on your chest to keep the eyes up? Or maybe a statement necklace?

    Post # 8
    Member
    7902 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

    I would probably try to find a different dress but not go crazy about it. And then if people ask, be honest. You mayb also want to tell close friends who will be there bfore that so they aren’t surprised, but as for casual acquaintences, I wouldn’t say anyting. Also, unless you are really showing or people know you’ve been trying, it would be super rude to ask if you are pregnant because if you weren’t, people just called you fat.

    Post # 9
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    529 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    @TurtleDoves:  I can completly understand wanting to wait until you’re further along. When/if I get pregnant, I don’t plan on telling people until my SO and I know the sex, hopefully by then I won’t be showing too much as to make it completly obvious without saying anything haha. As the other PPs suggested, maybe wear something with an empire waist? I voted the fourth option, but if you were to tell people, I’d make it after the shower and not before, just my opinion

    Post # 11
    Member
    1560 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    @TurtleDoves:  LOL yeah, my college friends TOTALLY would call me out. “Uh, KS…you’ve got a little FUPA going on there…you knocked up?” LOL 🙂 My friends don’t have that thing…oh what is it? Tact? 😉

    Post # 12
    Member
    5296 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: January 1993

    @TurtleDoves:  lol, so true! there are few things off limits with close friends!

    Post # 13
    Member
    9824 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    I didn’t openly acknowledge my pregnancy until 20 weeks! I pulled a Jessica Simpson, everyone knew but I wasn’t coming out with it until I was good and ready.

    Post # 15
    Member
    988 posts
    Busy bee

    I don’t think you have to tell people at the shower, but if they ask you shouldn’t deny.  I would tell the bride-to-be before the shower.  Then just answer any questions you get from other guests at the shower politely, but then change the subject back to the bride.  Also, in my experience even when you totally have a bump, people don’t notice.  I am 22 weeks and definitely sporting an obvious bump and yet when I met a few colleagues at a work conference last week, several of them did not notice and were very suprised when I told them!  People aren’t always as observant as you would think!

    Post # 16
    Member
    9824 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    @TurtleDoves:  My main motivation was not telling everyone right away and then having it be old hat by 40 weeks haha! I’m a weirdo who thinks of things like that.

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