(Closed) when should RSVP's be returned by?

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
4040 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Your caterer should give you a date they need final numbers (usually 2-3 weeks before the wedding). Take that date, go back 2-3 weeks, and make that your RSVP due date. That way, you still have those 2 weeks to track down any missing RSVP’s and still get your numbers in on time

Post # 4
1285 posts
Bumble bee

That depends when you need a final count for your vendors.

For us, our wedding is June 21.  Our hotel is saving block room rates until May 31.  I want to give people enough time to book a hotel room at the block room rate (and to think about whether they want to spend the weekend/night in a hotel), so my RSVP will probably be the first week of May or so.  


I would suggest a month before the wedding. Gives you enough time to deal with the seating chart and get a final count 2 weeks prior for your vendors.

Post # 5
9574 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

I would say anywhere from 3-4 weeks before the wedding. But I wouldn’t go much earlier than 4 weeks. 

Post # 7
2712 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@AndysCraftsNmore:  We did 10 days before the venue/caterer needed our final numbers.  You don’t want to make it too early or you’ll get a bunch of people missing the deadline or changing their response (people don’t always know their schedule a month + out).  I think Sept. 1 is just a bit too early – I’d suggest the 8th or the 10th.  That would give you 1.5-2 weeks to hunt down any missing RSVPs.

Post # 8
5371 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014 - Ontario, Canada ♥ EDD- April 2016

We’re asking for RSVPs by May 16th for our June 14th wedding. I know it’s early, but I think I’d get stressed out asking for them closer to the date.

Here’s our RSVP card. I suggest actually writing out the numbers and then you don’t have to worry about finding a different font (:

Post # 9
10453 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

I think 6 weeks is fine. That gives you time to track people down because ultimately you’ll have some fools who can’t read a deadline date. 

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