(Closed) When should the RSVP date be?

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
529 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

My wedding is 12 January 2013 and my RSVP date is 7 December. I think it’s a month before the date.

Post # 4
7899 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

I’d set it no more than 4 weeks out unless your caterer is really demanding about having final numbers crazy early. Most caterers want final numbers between 7 and 14 days in advance, but some are earlier. You want to give your guests enough time to secure time off from work and to adjust their finances. Some jobs will not gurantee time off months in advance.

Our wedding was March 3 and our RSVP date was like February 6 or 8 or 10 or something. I forget the exact date.

Post # 5
170 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I think about a month is ok, my wedding is Sept 8, 2013 and my RSVP date is August 2, 2013. Unless your venue or caterer has a specific time or deadline for the head count, i think you should be ok at the 1 month mark or about 4 weeks.

Post # 6
9050 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

My caterer wanted numbers 3 weeks in advance (after that you could go up, but not down up to 3 days out).  I’d set it a month before the wedding to give yourself a week to track down stragglers.  Also, about that much time is enough if having less people means you can have some “extras” to get them organized.

Post # 7
3569 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

For us we have it four weeks out just to have a buffer. I have to give final headcount to the caterer two weeks before the wedding, make final orders for rentals and pay for venue around the same time. So I plan on chasing everyone down before that.

Post # 9
69 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@ButterflyKisses13:  Our wedding is September 15, we requested RSVPs by August 15 (so a month ahead of time).  There’s unfortunately so much to finalize (seating, number of tables, food, drinks, cake, favors, on and on) that I really wanted a month to make sure I had everything together.

Post # 10
3625 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Do you have a list A and B? If you really want to utilize a list B, then I would set the RSVP date about a month out, at least. We had a small list B and we set our RSVP date about 2.5 weeks prior (caterer needed numbers 10 days prior) and we had a lot of declines late in the game and we didn’t really get a chance to add in list B people. We still had a handful of people to chase down by the deadline, so the extra days before final numbers to the caterer helped.

Post # 11
6 posts
  • Wedding: June 2013

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@ButterflyKisses13:  What date did you end up going with? I’m a June 28th bride too and I was thinking of setting the RSVP by date for June 7th – too late? 

Post # 12
166 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

My wedding is May 19, I gave the RSVP by date as April 20th.  That would give me a month to track down any slacking guests (my sisters I am sure) who have not returned their cards. 


Post # 14
209 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Destination Wedding is June 19…RSVP date is May 5. My coordinator wanted at least 5-6 weeks.

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