(Closed) When Should We Get Married, This Year or Next?

posted 8 years ago in Logistics
  • poll: When should we get married?
    This October : (21 votes)
    91 %
    Next September : (2 votes)
    9 %
  • Post # 3
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    3564 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    If you have the financial means to get married this year, I would definitely do it. I will have had a 15 month engagement when we get married, and that’s way too long!! I could have easily gotten everything done in 8 or 9 months. However, if waiting another year would mean being able to have the wedding you really want because you’ll have more flexibility financially, then I would wait.

    Post # 4
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    4001 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I don’t know that its right, but I’d go with this year.  We did a long engagement, as have many other bee’s and I’m at the point where I just wanna be married already!  The saving up part is what made us wait but I realize that you just do what you can with what you have and you’ll be happy with it.  I’ve known a lot of people who got married less than a year after their engagement.  It can totally work.  I know I could of done it.  You have to be organized and be able to handle stress because that will be inevitable and you have to understand that you’re going to be buuuuusy!  If you decide to do this October, start planning NOW πŸ™‚

    Post # 5
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    5670 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I agree with the PP. If you have the money then I would do it this year. I would just double check that the venues would still be available and if you have any have to have vendors.

    I did a two year engagement since we needed the time to save and pay for it as we go, but if I had the money and my venue was available I would have done it within a year.

    Post # 6
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    2083 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    i say this year… my engagement will in the end be for 2 years and 4 months. after one year, maybe even a little more than one year it was fine – but by a year and a half you start to think “ok already, i’ve been planning/thinking about it for a long time… i want the day to come!”

    Post # 7
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    1580 posts
    Bumble bee

    I don’t think 8 months is too short of an engagement. I’d definitely pick this year. Is there a reason why there isn’t a middle ground, like getting marring in the spring of 2011?

    Post # 8
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    2856 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    You have to ultimately decide what the two of you really want.

    The time frame you are talking about for this year is not too late. I planned our wedding in a little under 9 months and it was very much doable. I rather had it that way then to wait a year and 9  months which would have been the other option. I know I personally wanted more time but the hubs wanted it sooner so it worked for us. I honestly don’t regret it at all. We saved a good amount of money in the 9 months and now we are married and loving it!

    Post # 10
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    281 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2010 - The Glen Manor House

    Good luck to your Fiance on his job interview!

    We’re planning a fall wedding too – it just can’t be beat πŸ™‚

    Post # 11
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    96 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    Ultimately, like you said it is a personal decision. But from reading what you have to say about it, I vote this year!!

    Post # 13
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    1110 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2009

    if finance isnt a problem.

    LOVING YOUR DATE is great.

    Post # 14
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    2015 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2009

    It seems like the bees have already convinced you to go with the earlier date, but I wanted to chime in because one of the things I regret during our wedding planning is having such a long engagement. We were engaged 14 months before the wedding, and it was just too long. I’m not really the kind of person that needs tons of time to make decisions, but we thought a long engagement would be fun. Not so much. By the time the 10-12 month mark hit, we were SO ready to be done with planning.

    I honestly would have preferred a 6-month engagement over 14 πŸ™‚ So please don’t think you need a super long engagement to enjoy, but eventually, it just gets to the point where you want to be married!

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