Post # 1
I know this is a personal decision, but if it were YOU, what would you do?? It’s either 10-16-10 or 09-10-11
Getting married 10/16/10
– We won’t be worrying about it for another year and a half (this sounds negative, but you know what I mean)
– We can enjoy being married a year earlier
– We’re ready for it
– This is the date we’ve “planned on” since last summer
– Have to get things done quick!
– Might be cold
– Quick engagement, I know I shouldn’t, but am worried about what people might think
Getting married 9/10/11
– Longer than 8 months to get it all together
– Enjoy engagement for a longer period of time
– Earlier in the fall, less chance it will be cold
– We’ll be able to save up more $
– Fiance loves the date 10-16-10, and is hesitant to get married in an odd numbered month and year (weird, I know, but it’s a big deal to me, because otherwise he has no opinion)
– Waiting 19 months
Post # 3
If you have the financial means to get married this year, I would definitely do it. I will have had a 15 month engagement when we get married, and that’s way too long!! I could have easily gotten everything done in 8 or 9 months. However, if waiting another year would mean being able to have the wedding you really want because you’ll have more flexibility financially, then I would wait.
Post # 4
I don’t know that its right, but I’d go with this year. We did a long engagement, as have many other bee’s and I’m at the point where I just wanna be married already! The saving up part is what made us wait but I realize that you just do what you can with what you have and you’ll be happy with it. I’ve known a lot of people who got married less than a year after their engagement. It can totally work. I know I could of done it. You have to be organized and be able to handle stress because that will be inevitable and you have to understand that you’re going to be buuuuusy! If you decide to do this October, start planning NOW 🙂
Post # 5
I agree with the PP. If you have the money then I would do it this year. I would just double check that the venues would still be available and if you have any have to have vendors.
I did a two year engagement since we needed the time to save and pay for it as we go, but if I had the money and my venue was available I would have done it within a year.
Post # 6
i say this year… my engagement will in the end be for 2 years and 4 months. after one year, maybe even a little more than one year it was fine – but by a year and a half you start to think “ok already, i’ve been planning/thinking about it for a long time… i want the day to come!”
Post # 7
I don’t think 8 months is too short of an engagement. I’d definitely pick this year. Is there a reason why there isn’t a middle ground, like getting marring in the spring of 2011?
Post # 8
You have to ultimately decide what the two of you really want.
The time frame you are talking about for this year is not too late. I planned our wedding in a little under 9 months and it was very much doable. I rather had it that way then to wait a year and 9 months which would have been the other option. I know I personally wanted more time but the hubs wanted it sooner so it worked for us. I honestly don’t regret it at all. We saved a good amount of money in the 9 months and now we are married and loving it!
Post # 9
Bees, wow!! Thank you all. You all really surprised me with your thoughts. I figured everyone would lean more towards next year, or 50/50.. but you are all pulling for us this year 🙂
Thank you for the encouragement and comments.
He has an interview for his dream job this Saturday, so if he gets it, there will be no financial qualms. If he does not… well we’ll wait and see when that happens. We’ll probably still be okay, just really tight.
@Jacqi.. The middle ground is out just because we both love fall and can’t see having our wedding at any other time of the year 🙂
Post # 10
- Wedding: September 2010 - The Glen Manor House
Good luck to your Fiance on his job interview!
We’re planning a fall wedding too – it just can’t be beat 🙂
Post # 11
Ultimately, like you said it is a personal decision. But from reading what you have to say about it, I vote this year!!
Post # 12
@mandstan – THANK YOU!! We’ve got our fingers crossed
Yes, the fall is just gorgeous, I couldn’t imagine it any other way 🙂 I’d also rather it be chilly than a hundred degrees 😉
Post # 13
if finance isnt a problem.
LOVING YOUR DATE is great.
Post # 14
It seems like the bees have already convinced you to go with the earlier date, but I wanted to chime in because one of the things I regret during our wedding planning is having such a long engagement. We were engaged 14 months before the wedding, and it was just too long. I’m not really the kind of person that needs tons of time to make decisions, but we thought a long engagement would be fun. Not so much. By the time the 10-12 month mark hit, we were SO ready to be done with planning.
I honestly would have preferred a 6-month engagement over 14 🙂 So please don’t think you need a super long engagement to enjoy, but eventually, it just gets to the point where you want to be married!
Post # 15
I am already to the point of “let’s do this already!”, so from what I’m gathering, a 19 month engagement and I won’t get along too well 🙂
Thank you all so much for you comments, it seems that the general consenus says long engagements aren’t as fun as they sound!!