When should we send invitations?

posted 3 years ago in Paper
Post # 2
944 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2019

I think if you sent save the dates, you can hold off on the invites. I think typically for destination weddings they suggest sending invites 2-3 months in advance, which would be around 8-12 weeks in advance. So I don’t think you’re tooooo far off here, but maybe consider waiting a couple more weeks. You don’t want to send them out too early and then people push off RSVPing and then end up forgetting.

Post # 3
3353 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

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ducoop87 :  something you have to accept is that some people are planners, and others are not. those that want to get on top of arranging accommodations early will do so (after all, you send a STD). but other people – no matter when you send out the invites – are going to wait until the last minute. doesn’t matter how full the town is…they just won’t book ahead. it’s frustrating if you’re a planner (like me), but ultimately I learned you just have to trust that your guests will figure it out.

as for when to send them out, work backwards. when are your final headcounts due? add a week buffer to that date (because there will be people you have to track down who didn’t RSVP), and that’s your RSVP date. now add a month to that date, and that’s when you want invitations to arrive in people’s mailboxes. add to that however long your postal service typically takes to deliver things, and that’s when you should mail out invites.

for example, if let’s say your wedding is june 15th. your venue requires final headcounts 1 month in advance (may 15th). give yourself a 1 week buffer to track down people, and that means you want to tell people an RSVP date of may 5th. this means i want invitations to arrive to people around april 5th. knowing its 3-4 days delivery, i’d want to send them out around april 1st, give or take a few days.

if you’re REALLY anxious about it, you could send them out 2 weeks earlier, which is a full 3 months before the wedding. but any further out than 3 months, and people are just as likely to forget at they are to make accommodations becuase it’s too far out on the horizon for them to feel pressure to get on it.

Post # 4
107 posts
Blushing bee

We are also having our wedding in September this year. 80% of our guests will be travelling. We are sending out our invitations at the end of the week. 

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