Post # 1
SO I am about 4 weeks (so still very VERY early), but I am SUPER close to my mom and dad… I am an only child and literally talk to them about 5 times a day on the phone and constant typing over skype… (yes, I am nuts like that).
I will be with them for Thankgiving. We are renting a houseboat and going out on a huge lake and I will be right around week 6… which is supposed to be right when the morning sickness kicks in.
I WANT to tell my parents because I know they will be a good source if anything happens, plus I have a feeling they will know something is up when I turn down Thanksgiving wine and mixed drinks….
So here is my quesiion: Do I tell them at Thanksgiving (6 weeks)
Wait until Christmas (10 weeks)
Wait the whole 12 weeks just to be sure?
Also, I completely trust my parents to keeping this to themselves!
Post # 3
I would just tell them when you want to! We told our parents early at 4 weeks because it was the only opportunity both of our moms would be together all year.
Post # 4
I told my parents within days of my BFP, because I knew if anything went wrong, I’d need their support. As long as you trust them not to tell anyone else, I say go for it at Thanksgiving. Congrats and good luck!
Post # 5
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
I am also an only child and speak to my parents at least once a week. I would definitely tell them as soon as I got a positive test because we’re close and I would want their support if I miscarried.
Post # 6
@SweetartMD: I say right away. I waited until I got my blood test done (which was simple for me as opposed to other women though because I work in a clinic), and then we went over to my parent’s house and told them. I knew they would be there for me if anything happens, especially since my mom went through several miscarriages.
Might be a nice surprise at Christmas if you can hold it in that long, but otherwise I would tell them right away 🙂
Post # 7
I couldn’t imagine not spilling the beans to my mom and dad so I would tell them right away. And as PP’s said, as long as you can trust them not to tell anyone else I don’t see any harm in telling them early. Congrats!
Post # 8
Due to a previous miscarraiage, I will only be telling people when we get to the safe, 12 week period. I don’t want that much… presure if something goes wrong. It was hard enough the first time.
Though, I might tell my parents. I havne’t decided yet. It depends on how much of a secret people can keep.
Post # 9
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
If I were super close with my parents and knew they wouldn’t be overbearing about it, I wouldn’t hesitate to tell them early. like you said, if anything went wrong, you’d lean on them anyway. So what is the harm in sating something early and sharing the joy?
Post # 10
@SweetartMD: Whenever you’re comfortable!
We told my in laws at 8 weeks since we were on vacation with them for a week. We wanted to tell them in a fun way, not have ethem figure it out.
We told my parents at 12 weeks because that’s when we saw them in person. They wouldn’t have had any way to figure it out before then so we were able to wait,
My vote for you would be Thanksgiving so you can surprise them and not have them just figure it out.
Post # 11
I’m also an only child, very close to my parents. I think I’d probably tell them pretty soon – maybe take a week or two for me and SO to digest the news ourselves! We’re not TTC or anything but I simply can’t imagine keeping something this big a secret from my parents for very long!
Post # 12
🙂 Its literally killing me not tellng my parent, but they live 4 hours away and I feel like its something to be done in person.
If I did it at Thanksgiving I think I would give a toast and say something like “Here is to what is most likely going to be our last Thanksgiving where its just the four of us! :)” And wait for them to gather my meaning, while Darling Husband videos it.
If I did it at Christmas I would probably give them a present with a baby ornament inside.
If I did it at 12 weeks (right after New Years) I would probably give them a late “Christmas Present” with a sonogram or something in it…
Post # 13
I am really close with my parents as well and it’s hard to imagine me not telling them right away.
Post # 14
@SweetartMD: I voted tell them at Thanksgiving.
Post # 15
We got married when I was 6w3d. Nobody guessed it. (although I also wasn’t sick at all!)
We went on a honeymoon and told them around 7+3. They had NO idea. I didn’t want to wait to tell our parents, and my sister, and our grandparents. Slowly after that we started telling aunts uncles and cousins who I would want support from if something happened. At 12-13 weeks we told everyone else.
My best suggestion would be telling them when you are comfortable. We would have told JUST parents and my sister before 6 weeks, but being SO close to the wedding, we figured they didn’t need anything extra to worry about! Thanksgiving sounds good, but I think Christmas would be SOOO cute. You could do a super cute announcement, like the bow and gift tag around your belly “Don’t open until *July* 2014” Personally, I would probably wait and do the super cute Christmas announcement, because I love watching those and Christmas proposals on youtube LOL.
(After reading other comments, I had an early dating scan at 6 weeks, baby was a little blob, but we gave them a ‘late wedding gift’ and it was a picture frame I painted in blue pink and yellow, Wrote *baby* *our last name* in wooden letters that were painted, and in it was a copy of the hard to see first ultrasound image. They got the point pretty quick!)
Good Luck! 🙂
Post # 16
- Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY
I think you should tell your parents asap as it sounds like you are super close with them. If anything goes “wrong” wouldn’t you want them to support you? Miscarrying is not something to be ashamed of… it’s very common and is not easy to go through alone. If you’re as close are you say you are, I’m sure you know they will support you no matter what!