(Closed) When SO/FI/DH tells you "soon" what does that really mean?

posted 5 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 3
530 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

So know what you mean! My Darling Husband uses soon as well but it can be 5 min or 2 hrs! It’s funny because he recently  sent me this which made me laugh.  Occasionally I may wait until last minute to get ready 🙂

Post # 5
7651 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

@krayzay87:  Soon to me means within a half an hour. When Darling Husband says, “I will be home soon” he usually gets home within a half an hour.

Post # 6
630 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@krayzay87:  +1   If I say 5 minutes, it’s probably more like 4.

Darling Husband on the other hand – if he says 5 minutes. Sit down, grab a snack and find something good on TV.

Post # 7
214 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

Easy. Don’t ask “when will you be home?” … he will answer soon.


Ask, “What time will you be home” .. he will need to give an actual time.


if he doens’t ask for a time frame. 

Post # 8
4524 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Everyone’s idea of “soon” is very different, so I always ask for that information in time format.

Case-in-point: we have a good friend who is habitually late, and it drives me insane. “Soon” can mean anything from an hour to bailing out entirely. So now, I make sure I ask directly “what *time* will you be here.” That seems to help.

Post # 9
2668 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015 - Ketchum, ID

@krayzay87:  my boyfriend rarely says “soon”. Usually if I ask him when he’ll be home, he’ll give me a specific time. Or if he’s close, he’ll say a really random number, like “I’ll be home in 8 minutes”. What’s crazy is he’s usually really close to being right. 

Post # 10
1640 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Fiance does this to me. To me “soon” is anywhere between 15 minutes to an hour. To him, it’s anywhere between an hour and THREE HOURS.

Especially when I call him and ask “When are you coming home from work?” “Soon” It’s at least an hour from the time we hang up to the time he walks in the door. 

I hate it.

Also, with his job, if I ask “What time will you be home?” He just says, “I don’t know.” (He works with computers so it depends on how long it takes the computer to do whatever it is he’s trying to get it to do. T___T

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