Post # 1
whether they offer, or you think you trust them enough because they have kids, or they take it upon themselves to do it, etc…
but then they tell you to take off something or change something, and you disagree…how do you tell them politely? Or do you just take it off? Like, for example, I was told I have too many hooded towels and I should switch breast pump brands. But, I kind of disagree! I KNOW they know better if they have kids on things like how many towels….but….
It is just an awkward situation.
Post # 3
I would just say “Thanks for the suggestion, I hadn’t considered that” or “Thanks for the suggestion, I’ll have to think about it”, and then leave things as you want them. Even if they’re right, you’ll have to learn that for yourself. I’m sure they didn’t mean any harm, though, people just want to be helpful.
Post # 4
I think people are just trying to be helpful – if anyone offers me feedback, I listen, say thanks, consider it and then do whatever I want. I doubt they will follow up with you and if they do you could just say you thought about their comment and did some more research and made X decision.
Post # 5
I’d just say “thanks for the input – I’ll keep that in mind.” And mentally want to punch them in the face (that’s the hormones talking . . .)
For something like the breast pump brand, I might ask why they think the other one is better and find out if they used the one you registered for. But too many towels? Come on, really?
Post # 6
Oh I don’t think anyone means any harm. I know they are totally intending to be helpful and I appreciate the help. I just want to be polite and let them know I appreciate the help…but make my own mistakes, you know? 🙂
Post # 7
Well, people have different opinions on what works for them. My best friend and I totally disagree on what is “necessary” – and we each have 2 kids! Live and learn- you can always return something if you dont use it and can get more if you do.
Post # 8
My cousin kind of critiqued my registry but she had some really good points. For example, I had picked a certain brand of a pack n play and my cousin, who works at Babies R Us, had only heard bad things about them and they had a lot of returns. I appreciated her input and switched. But if you don’t find the advice helpful, there’s no law that says you have to take it. Just say thanks, and leave your registry as it is.
And by the way- I don’t think there is such a thing as too many hooded towels. Seems like we are always down to our last one. I feel the same about blankets.
Post # 9
Just say “thanks” and move on. When I buy stuff of registries, I just buy what I agree with and keep my mouth shut. Too bad these people didn’t do the same.
Post # 10
My SIL made the comment that my registry items were really cheap. And it made me do a double take but then I consciously made sure I didn’t register for what I thought were ridiculous prices on items.
Post # 11
And, you know, everyone is different. I’ve heard some people say “I couldn’t have lived without X” and I totally did live without it and vice versa. I mean, come on. Breast pump brands?! Isn’t that a personal decision? The other posters were nice with their “Thanks, I’ll keep that in mind” suggestion. Sounds like a good route to go.
Post # 12
I know what you mean… My mom kinda trashed my registry ha. But I did listen to her on the breast pumps bc I never have donet this before and I dont want to take advice for granite. As far as too many baby clothes I kinda just brushed it off bc I really dont think i registered for too much at all.
Post # 13
Argh … that would totally annoy me! Maybe because I know a few ppl that think they know “it all” and expect you to obey their every word But, if it is just a harmless comment, then you can just disagree and keep it on. “Well, we don’t plan to do as much laundry, so I think I’ll just keep them on.” As for the breastpump – that’s a really personal choice and having an opinion is one thing, but she can’t expect you to agree.
I don’t have a registry, but we bought/was given a whole ton of baby gear when we visited my Mom over the holidays (it was early but sooooo much cheaper to buy there than here). I was obsessed with bibs … and read a lot about them and how many bibs are actually needed. The number differed from Mom to Mom and it’s about parenting styles and how much LO will actual drool. Well, $7 for a 3-pack of Carter’s bibs (from Ross) was a ton cheaper than $15 for 1 sad, thin, super small bib I can find here — so I bought a ton of them. My Mom tried giving me crap about it and I second guessed myself, but in the end, it just made sense for us. I’d rather avoid changing baby’s shirt than having to change the bib multiple times a day.