Post # 1
So my aunt has offered to buy my dress which is great. I appreciate the help. She has told me to start looking but hasn’t given me a budget. She did however send me links to David’s Bridal. I have nothing against David’s Bridal but the dresses I’ve been eyeing are not sold at David’s Bridal and are in the 1500-2k price range which is higher than the average David’s Bridal dresses I’ve seen . My fiancé and I are paying for the wedding ourselves and thought we would buy the dress ourselves as well so I never considered having to think about anyone else’s budget. How should i approach my aunt about this? Flat out ask the budget and offer to pay the difference? This whole thing feels a little awkward to me and I really want to just buy the dress myself but it seems like buying the dress is important to her and I don’t want to make things any more awkward than they already are. We don’t have the closest/best relationship and things have been off and on for many years so it was really a surprise when she offered to buy the dress. How would you handle this?
Post # 2
I would graciously thank her for the offer, and then flat out ask for a budget she is comfortable with. If the dress you fall in love with is over that budget, then suggest you just pay the difference!
She may not be aware of all the various shops out there, and David’s may have just been the first store to pop to mind.
Post # 3
The family of my mom’s best friend owned a wedding dress shop. They asked if she wanted to go dress shopping at their store and she knew that the family would offer the dress as a wedding gift. She was shown 2 dresses and felt bad saying no to both, so she picked one. It was a generous gift, but it wasn’t what she wanted. She regrets it to this day.
I agree with PP and ask what her budget is.
Post # 4
I would ask what her budget is. If she says she doesn’t have one specifically or says one that’s less than yours, tell her you have a designer in mind, and that most of their dresses will be in the 1500-2k range. Be up front about the fact that you will be happy to cover any costs above and beyond her comfort zone, as you were planning on buying the gown on your own, but you’re incredibly grateful for her offer and it means a lot to you, because now you’ll be able to spend that money on other personal touches for the wedding.
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Post # 6
what she said. Then don’t buy a dress you can’t afford to pay for yourself before you receive her check.
Post # 7
If it were me, instead of asking her bugdet, I’d say something like “I appreciate the offer so much, but the dresses that I’m interested aren’t in the David’s Bridal price range so please don’t worry about buying a dress for me”. That will put the ball in her court to decide if she wants to help pitch in to your $1500-2k dress.
Post # 8
Thanks so much for your advice, ladies! I reached out to my aunt and she didn’t give me an exact budget but I let her know the price range of the dresses i was considering and offered to pay the difference. She told me that price range is fine and not to stress about it 🙂
Now I can focus on finding a dress I love!
Post # 9
ohdarling : what an awesome aunt!
Post # 10
How very kind of your aunt!