When someone offers to buy your dress but you have a different budget in mind

posted 2 months ago in Dress
Post # 2
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

I would graciously thank her for the offer, and then flat out ask for a budget she is comfortable with. If the dress you fall in love with is over that budget, then suggest you just pay the difference! 

She may not be aware of all the various shops out there, and David’s may have just been the first store to pop to mind.  

Post # 3
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646 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2019

The family of my mom’s best friend owned a wedding dress shop. They asked if she wanted to go dress shopping at their store and she knew that the family would offer the dress as a wedding gift. She was shown 2 dresses and felt bad saying no to both, so she picked one. It was a generous gift, but it wasn’t what she wanted. She regrets it to this day.

I agree with PP and ask what her budget is.

Post # 4
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1118 posts
Bumble bee

I would ask what her budget is.  If she says she doesn’t have one specifically  or says one that’s less than yours, tell her you have a designer in mind, and that most of their dresses will be in the 1500-2k range.  Be up front about the fact that you will be happy to cover any costs above and beyond her comfort zone, as you were planning on buying the gown on your own, but you’re incredibly grateful for her offer and it means a lot to you, because now you’ll be able to spend that money on other personal touches for the wedding.    

Post # 6
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

what she said. Then don’t buy a dress you can’t afford to pay for yourself before you receive her check.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee

If it were me, instead of asking her bugdet, I’d say something like “I appreciate the offer so much, but the dresses that I’m interested aren’t in the David’s Bridal price range so please don’t worry about buying a dress for me”. That will put the ball in her court to decide if she wants to help pitch in to your $1500-2k dress.

Post # 10
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1698 posts
Bumble bee

How very kind of your aunt!

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