Post # 1
I absolutley do not want you to feel obligated to invite this person, is that code for “Invite this person”
I’m planning my daughters wedding and my Mother-In-Law just sent me an email to tell me that she absolutley doesn’t want me to feel obliaged to invite her brother and his wife. She added that her brothers wife would probably not come anyway because the wedding is not held at a Catholic Church. Honestlym I had not even thought of inviting them. We only see them every few years usually at a funeral and they probably couldn’t even tell you my daughters name. Plus, I don’t even have their address so I would have to obtain it from Mother-In-Law which I haven’t. It’s a bit odd that she made it a point to tell me this.
Do you think she really wants me to extend him an invite even though she says no?
Post # 3
I would guess that’s why she mentioned it, but I certainly don’t think you have to. This would be your daughter’s great-aunt and great-uncle, right?
Post # 4
If you don’t want to invite him, don’t invite him, lol. And more importantly if your daughter doesn’t want him, don’t invite him. If your Mother-In-Law is normally passive aggressive, then yes, she probably does want you to invite him. But seeing as it isn’t her wedding and I’m assuming you’re paying at least a portion if you’re helping to plan, she doesn’t get to decide the guest list, your daughter does, with some input from you if you are helping to pay.
Post # 5
Mother-In-Law is helping with the flowers which is wonderful of her. I just wish people would say what they mean instead of throwing hints around.
Post # 6
Just goes to show how interpreting things can lead to miscommunication… I would have taken it as “no need to invite them, but I’m hinting at it so that my part of the obligation is done.” I’d probably tell her no problem, they weren’t on my radar anyway! haha