- 7 years ago
- Wedding: April 2012
Ok so I’ve been reading thru the posts for the last few days and I notice how almost every bride-to-be is saying things have changed or fights have started or other things have occured in their relationship that never happened before their engagement/before wedding planning started. I have also noticed how my Fiance and I have started to have minor fall-outs. We had our first arguement over Micheal Jackson,(really????) I was so pissed when I thought about it. GRRRR. When the new year came in, I began planning for the wedding, and we started looking at possible apartments. We even started to really lay down our future plans. Trying to decide how long we would stay in New Orleans before we move to Houston, how long each of us would be out of school, figuring finances since we both are going back to graduate school and we will only be working part-time. It’s stressful, trust me!!
I took this semester off school, but my Fiance enrolled for the Spring. Well he didnt tell me he failed a class last semester, he mentioned this almost 9 wks later after the fact. I felt super betrayed, because I feel he should have brought this up when I mentioned that I was taking the semester off. He says his reason is because he knew I had my heart set on the date on April 7 and he didnt want to dissapoint me. So he claims he was trying to rectify the situation on his own. I believe him on that because he doesnt want to change the date but it seems like we will have to, but I didnt react the way he thought I would. He admitted that he thought I would be a total bitch about it(not his words, mines), but I wasnt at all.
But to be back on track, we have done more fighting this past month or two than ever. He’s stressed because of school and I am pissed that he is trying to handle it all on his own. He’s not confiding in me, his parents, no one. And not only is he breaking himself, but he’s breaking us as well. I love this man and I am not doubtful about marrying him, but it seems like after the planning starts, the fights and unusual behavior starts. My Fiance has done a few annoying things lately, but nothing he can get kicked to the curb for:-) or that can make me feel like I want to call off the wedding.
So I thought to myself, I can see and easily recognize his flaws, but am I doing something as well. Or was he doing this before and I was blind to it or did I think he was gonna change? I also think each bee needs to ask herself this question because it seems like alot of you are also in the same situation. Were those qualities he’s showing supressed before, but were was always present in little streaks? All I’m saying is maybe we all have a little bridezilla and groomzilla in us and if you start having an affair with your wedding, its gonna show. Just think about it.