(Closed) When the Engagement Butterflies Go Away!!! long rant sry

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: Have your fights or problems become more frequent with your FI since wedding planning/engagement?
    Yes, it seems like the only time we actually talk is when we are fighting : (1 votes)
    3 %
    No, I would never fight with my lovebunny : (3 votes)
    8 %
    Only if I bring up a serious issue when he's in the middle of his hobby (football, gaming, ect.) : (4 votes)
    11 %
    No, my FI and I are adults who know how to be mature about handling our problems : (19 votes)
    50 %
    What's the big deal anyway? Isn't fighting normal? : (11 votes)
    29 %
  • Post # 3
    97 posts
    Worker bee

    I totally understand where you are coming from! I am including a link to a thread that I started in hopes that it may help you. You are not alone in feeling this way! I recently read two books that really helped me out: “101 Things I Wish I Knew Before I Got Married” by Linda and Charlie Bloom, and “Emotionally Engaged: A Bride’s Guide to Surviving the “Happiest” Time of Her Life” by Allison Moir-Smith. These two books helped me tremendously. The first book (101 Things) helped me learn better problem solving and communication skills. I learned that one of the reasons we were arguing so much was because we were not communicating effectively. The second book (Emotionally Engaged) helped me figure out exactly why I was feeling the way that I was, and it helped me overcome the stresses of becoming engaged and begining a new chapter in life. I really hope this helps! Feel free to PM me if you need advice or to vent! 

    Ring goes on finger – fighting begins?

    Post # 5
    97 posts
    Worker bee

    @futuremrsbolling472012: Well, only you can know what is best and if you felt it in your gut then I’d say go with it. Good luck to you! I know it’s hard, I called off a wedding before with my ex.

    Post # 6
    5147 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I think people tend to go through a period where they really realize “I’m going to be stuck with this man for the rest of my life…” and it can be scary.

    You have to ask yourself if you are nervous because it’s a big life-changing event, or if you are nervous because you really do not want to be with that person forever.



    I’m lucky, my fiance and I haven’t increased in fighting, we don’t fight much at all. We’ve also been living together for 5 years and were together 2 years before that; so I figure we already realized we were “stuck” with each other, LOL. The wedding just makes it all legal.

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