When the perfect time to get baby after married

posted 6 months ago in Married Life
Post # 2
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2016 - Lola's Trailer Park

I think your plan to wait and live together is solid. If you’ve always been long distance it will take time to really get used to one another.

Also, babies cost money.

Post # 3
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

Since you are long distance I would definitely take at least a year to live together and get used to sharing the same space before adding a baby to the mix.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

Yes I agree with the others, have some time just you two living together before having a baby.

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2009

I think it depends on the couple.  You have been together a long time.  By DH and got pregnant the month after we married and have zero regrets.  I was 28 and we wanted to start out family.  We only lived together 5 months before marriage.

Post # 6
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Sugar Beekeeper

There is no “perfect time”, just the time that is right for you and even then it is not always the best time. Take your time- at least a year to adjust to each other. It is only fair to the future kid to be a a harmonious home

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

At least a year.  You need time to really enjoy your marriage and know your SO more especially after a long-distance relationship.

I’ve heard a lot of friends feeling regrets having a kid within a year of marriage as they were going through many big changes generally, wedding, sometimes new move, then kid.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

Definitely live together for at least a year first since you’ve been long distance. It can totally change once you live together and you should make sure you’re extra certain of this (by living together) before committing to a child.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

there’s no such thing as “perfect time”. i think that you should have a baby when you are both ready for it 🙂

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

Every couple is different and so is every culture. Where I’m living it’s normal to start trying as soon as you get married, in part so the girl can prove she is fertile. Where is your girlfriend from?

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2016

There’s no perfect time – when you are financially, mentally, emotionally and physically ready, then you have a baby. Just don’t try for a baby when you are not ready. 

And living together and figuring things out is a must – there’s going to be a lot of friction when you first live together, unless you are just lucky. Sort them out before trying for a baby – adult life is stressful enough! one step at a time!

My husband and I are reverse – he wants to ttc asap and I want to wait another year saving up etc (we’ve been married for over a year).

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