- 2 years ago
Regular-ish bee going anon here. This is a long one, so there is a TL;DR at the bottom for anyone who can’t be bothered with the wall of text.
My SO and I are very much on the same page about getting engaged and married. He has been as enthusiastic as me with every conversation, right from the beginning. It was literally never an issue. I spent a good while choosing my ring, and there some significant delays in getting it ready and delivered, but that happened at the end of July and… Nothing since.
We had never really discussed a timeline, since we were both on board with the whole process, however in august I asked him to give me a vague ballpark as to when I could expect the moment. He told me mid-October. Exactly the middle of October we went out to celebrate something different, and he told me the proposal was supposed to happen that day, but couldn’t for reasons he couldn’t divulge (I imagine it was due to the rain). Since then, we have spoken about this and he didn’t realise that me asking for a timeline wasn’t asking for the actual date, but rather for a general period of time within which it would happen.
After that we have had one free weekend, then one where we had a wedding, then this weekend. I don’t think I would be too worked to by this, except that the next three weekends are completely full (for one I’ll be interstate, my mum is visiting us for one, and on the third I’m having minor surgery). I understand that he is trying to organise something more complicated, which is fine, it’s just really hard to wait and to be continuously disappointed every Sunday afternoon. And I really didn’t want to have to wait anther month to be engage. I also hate holiday engagements, so I really wanted time to celebrate the engagement before Christmas celebrations, you know?
Tonight we had a bit of a fight about it. I told him I was upset because nothing had happened this weekend again, and he just changed the topic. Zero comment. We ended up taking about it later, with him saying he doesn’t feel like he can talk about it without spoiling it and me just wanting some support our at least understanding from him….
Am I being a brat? I’m just tired of feeling completely powerless in this situation, getting my hopes up every weekend and being crushed every Monday. Can someone give me tips to explain my point of view and feelings to him? He doesn’t seem to get it at all.
TL;DR: SO enthusiastic re engagement, now taking forever to actually pop the question due to a complex plan, leaving me feeling upset and in an emotional roller-coaster. Halp.