Post # 1
- Wedding: October 2016 - Beaches Negril
When people hear we’re having a destination wedding to Jamacia, they say oh how exciting. It would be but I feel cheated. It will be just us and the kids. My Mom passed 5 years ago and his family and I have”ethnic” issues. You probably have seen my father more times than I have… When Mom passed, my siblings and I stopped talking and my friends trickled away. It makes me feel like I’m not a real bride. My fiance is great at doing everything I want to make me happy, but I feel so empty. I tried using the wedding as a reconnecting moment, but it didn’t work. I know it’s not about who comes and all that other couple things, yet I still long for the feeling of being a bride. What can I do to stop faking being happy and start feeling like a real bride? I know it sounds weird but everywhere I turn I have to answer questions about the ceremony and number of guests, etc and it just opens the wounds all over again. I try to get in front of the questions and say it’s just us and the kids but people still question. How can I capture the feeling?
Post # 2
I’m sorry for the loss of your mom and for your other troubles. My husband and I eloped for various reasons and it was literally just us two and a JOP at the courthouse. I wore a simple dress (not a simple wedding dress, just a plain old dress) and my husband wore khakis because I made him dress up. 🙂 I was a little sad that we didn’t have loving supportive friends and family to watch and celebrate with us, but I definitely felt like a bride. Being “the bride” doesn’t depend on your clothes or who is watching or how many people are at your party afterwards. You’re the bride because you and your groom (or bride) love each other enough to commit yourselves to each other, body and soul, before God and the law, for the rest of your lives. I hope you enjoy your special intimate wedding in Jamaica and have a happy marriage afterwards.
Post # 3
- Wedding: Hawksnest Cove Beach St John USVI
omg think of the stress saving! We had 12 guests and our wedding was amazing. I didn’t want a lot of guests and we both have a decent -a lot – of family drama. On our wedding day another couple got married and the bride and grooms mother got into a fistfight on the beach. They are the talk of the resort! I’m thankful to have the people I wanted at our wedding and no drama!!! Your kids love you and invite those who love and support you.
Post # 4
I’m so sorry to hear about the passing of your mom, maybe you could light a candle for her at the ceremony, there are a lot of nice ways to have tributes at the ceremony for loved ones.
I am having a destination wedding as well and we have a small group of people coming- but remember the number of guests doesn’t take away from you being a bride and having that experience. Get your hair and makeup done, wear a wedding dress, and remember it’s all about you and your FI- all of that is the bridal experience. Embrace your destination wedding- it’s going to be amazing- what an amazing place to be getting married at!!
Post # 5
I sympathize with your situation. Are you having vendors that you might bond with? Like a hair/make up person, photographer, officiant, etc? Even though they’re doing a job and getting paid, these are real people who might end up having a great time celebrating your wedding. You can make them feel like invited guests and enjoy their happiness for you. Seems like most people who get into the wedding field genuinely love weddings and celebrating love : ) Another idea is if you get to Jamaica a few days before the ceremony– see if you make friends along the way! If I were in Jamaica on vacation and had a nice conversation at the bar with another couple who then invited me to their weddding- i think it would be the highlight of my trip to attend! Keep an open eye open for people who are fun, kind, and would enjoy celebrating with you! Of course, in the end, you WILL be a bride because you are one. Your dress and your primping and the look in your husbands’ eyes will ulitamtely remind you this.