Post # 1
Our beautiful cat has heart failure and so we have weeks maybe months if we’re lucky before we have to say goodbye.
I’ve never met a pet like this before even though i adore animals. He is our chatty, loving and constant companion. I’ve had the pleasure to know him for 5 years and Darling Husband has had him since he was tiny.
He is 19 now so he has done incredibly well. He has lost an eye which Darling Husband desperately tried to keep but he had to have the op in the end, he’s lost one of his thyroids and he collapsed with a heart attack on the kitchen floor recently when i was alone with him. That was so scary, he went rigid and fell and i stayed as calm as possible to deal with it.
We keep saying goodbye and he keeps fighting on so it feels almost impossible that he will one day pass away.
Darling Husband and i most likely won’t be having kids so he is our everything. I know it sounds crazy but we’re a trio not a duo and he’s cherished by pretty much everyone who meets him.
How am i supposed to go to the vet when the time comes and stay calm for him and DH? Is it normal to be this devastated?
Post # 2
Hi, I am really sorry about your cat. My 13 year old Jack Russell just died of lymphoma and it was absolutely DEVASTING. It’s been a month and I just woke up a few minutes ago crying because I had dreamed he was alive and warm in my arms.
As difficult as it is to contemplate, you will have a choice to make soon. It was really important for us not to wait too long. We took him in on the day he could not get up. Nobody wants to let go, but a pet can’t tell us if they are miserable or in pain, so I figured it was best not drag it out.
Not gonna lie, your heart will break and you will grieve. A lot. And don’t be afraid to let that happen. It’s normal and even though some people will say, “it’s just a pet”. It’s not. It’s your family.
Again, very sorry you are going through this. 😪🐱
Post # 3
I am very sorry. we have a cat who runs the houe. I would rather spend the evening with her than some people I know. Animals go to a special place in Heaven.
Post # 4
Magicmc: Im so sorry for your loss, dreaming can be so painful at times 🙁
I reckon the ‘it’s just a pet’ line is probably the most common/hurtful thing that gets thrown at people in this situation.
We said a long time ago that we must make the right decision for him and not for us. We must respect him until the very end. I just don’t know how I’m going to stay brave and calm but I’ll have to. I want him to leave as peacefully as possible and I don’t want to add to DH’s distress either.
Post # 5
Tisa85: So so sorry about your kitty. It’s a really difficult decision to have to make. Yes, it’s totally normal to feel devastated. I personally have gotten some sort of tranquilzer from my vet the few times I’ve had to do it. Because my dogs are terrified of the vet, I didn’t want their last moment on earth to be fear. You are doing it all right when you said you have to do what’s right for your cat and not for you. It’s the most unselfish thing you can do. Gah, getting teary just thinking about it!
Post # 6
- Wedding: April 2017 - Hogarths, Solihull
My last kitty cat died last week and I was heartbroken. She wasn’t ill – she just went to sleep and never woke up.
We’ve not had to take a cat to the vets to be put to sleep for many years. Of the 4 cats I’ve had in the last 20 years, 2 have died in their sleep at home and 2 have left home never to be seen again.
Love your cat as much as possible – I hope he goes in his sleep for you as I really believe it is the best way. Then you can bury him in the garden knowing he is at peace <3
Post # 7
We have lost 3 animals in the last 3 years and have had them cremated. They are on the mantle in the living room along with their paw prints. So many people don’t understand it, but it helped the kids get through it and honestly us too. It is such a devestating loss I’m sorry you are having to go through this.
Post # 8
I am sorry bee. I can tell you that I did not stay calm at all when I lost my dog a few months back. I was a huge wreck and couldn’t even trust myself to drive home.
My parents lost their cat last month and did a home euthanasia. It didn’t cost much more, and it helped everyone to be a lot more comfortable. You may want to look into that.
Post # 9
I’m so sorry to hear! My Fiance and I have a 2 year old cat that we love so much, she is our baby.
I highly suggest doing a home euthanasia, like lovelyruby: suggested. We did this with our family dog that we had to put down.
Post # 10
Tisa85: It’s going to be SO difficult when that day comes, but only you and your Darling Husband can make that decision. I will say this, pets will “keep fighting” because that’s what they do. It’s up to you to decide if he is suffering too much And when to let go.
Honestly, we should have taken our dog in about 4 days earlier than we did. But as you said, you just keep hoping for a miracle. And it must have been terrifying to hold him through that heart attack, but you were brave then. You can be brave now.
And like PP, I had my dog cremated and ordered the nicest little urn for him and he will be with me always. I have two kids, but he was my special “baby”, just like your beloved kitty. It’s good to have your Darling Husband with you to help you get through this.
Post # 11
Thank you bees for sharing your stories and for all your kind and reassuring words.
We’re just gonna keep following the vet’s advice, monitoring him and then do our best to do right by him. Doing it at home sounds best to me I will mention that to Darling Husband next time the subject arises.