(Closed) When they call him your “HUSBAND” and he ISN’T?

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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598 posts
Busy bee

Technically we are husband and wife in the legal common-law sense here in Canada. My Fiance likes to call me “the wife” to his guy friends. Officially we are fiance/fiancee, though, so that’s what I tell people. I read online about some celebrity who has been engaged for a while so they just bought and wear wedding bands and call each other husband/wife. I wouldn’t mind doing that with my Fiance but don’t have the guts 😛 It would just really confuse people. But I get all smiley when someone calls him my husband 🙂 I don’t correct if they say husband or boyfriend unless they are asking.

Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper

Just correct them if it bothers you. They aren’t doing it to offend you, nor do they know your personal stance on marriage, and they probably aren’t inspecting your hand for a ring.

Post # 5
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923 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

I’ve only had this happen once, and that was before I was “waiting.”  I blew it off.  I didn’t feel like explaining myself in my super conservative Baptist town.  Plus, most people who know me still remember my statement that “I’m never gettng married again” so they know not to ask.  However, I totally see now how it could be hurtful. 

Post # 6
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726 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I don’t like it because I feel like it will take away from the specialness once we are married, especially because its so close. When he first proposed I jokingly called him “husband” and he’d call me “wifey” but that probably happened about 5 times. It made smile like crazy when it did though. Now, I try to say “my fiance” just so that the day of I can start saying “my husband” and feel really giddy about it. 

Post # 7
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674 posts
Busy bee

We’re called husband/wife and finace/fiancee all the time. We’re not officially either if you look for a ring, but certainly some documents refer to me as his fiancee (like medical emergency contact information). It doesn’t bother me at all. To me, it just represents that others in our lives acknowledge us as a dedicated couple who will be together for the rest of our lives.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

It doesn’t actually bother me, and like BrookeBQ, in Australia we are technically husband and wife anyway. Just we havent had the formal, ceremony part of it!

I do get a bit of a thrill when it happens and I know its coming anyway, so I dont correct anyone.

Post # 9
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2158 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

It happens all the time.  His friends will ask where the “wife” is, that kind of thing. It doens’t bother me at all

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

The only person who’s ever done this was the VP of my company. I didn’t correct him, cuz he’s the VP.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee

It pisses me off so I usually tell them that he is NOT my husband. Cause I’m a grumpy waiting bee *pout*

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

Icall him my husband when random drunks from the bar wander into the kitchen!  Se beenpreceded to as husband / wife and we just blink it off. It will be true. L

Post # 13
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Helper bee

I react really well, I like it – I dont mind at all. It makes it seem like they are accepting him as husband material and also its exciting to think about one day him being MINE!

Post # 14
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580 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I’ve had it once that I can remember right now. I was a bit like ‘:(‘ cause he isn’t. I don’t think I bothered to correct him. Then on Sunday at work my team leader asked if I was engaged cause he thought I was and my heart started beating faster and I got a swoopy stomach feeling, it was weird!

Post # 15
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Busy bee

Lmao I get it all the time! I tend to correct them once and then quit: don’t want to sound patronising saying “actually he’s my partner” all the time and I can do without the reminder that we’re not engaged (we get enough family pressure about that)

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I get it all the time. It upsets me a little but I don’t really correct anyone and just carry on with the conversation. I refer to him as my spouse cuz i dread the word boyfriend.

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