Post # 1
Hi bees! We’re just securing our venue and booking our date. I’m super excited to ask my bridesmaids but I’m a nervous nelly and never totally sure. Wedding date is June 25, 2016 – is it too early to ask them?!
Post # 2
yes, too early. I’d wait until the end of this summer at the earliest.
Post # 3
No it’s not to early. This will give them plenty of time to save money especially if they will be paying for dresses. i asked my girls well in advance. They paid the deposit for there hair months ago. I haven’t bugged them for anything else other than Bridesmaid or Best Man dress shopping which is this Saturday and my wedding is in September of this year.
Post # 4
Im getting married August 2016 and asked mine a few weeks ago! If you are 100% certain that the people you want to ask now are the people you will want to ask in a years time then theres no harm asking now. People often wait a bit later if they are asking many people or if they asking new friends. In those situations its best to wait incase you change your mind nearer the time. I only asked 2 girls- both close family members who I have been 100% certain would be my bridesmaids since I was about 10.
Post # 5
I think it is too early. I hear so many stories about bridesmaid causing drama etc etc. I would wait to ask them. At least until june 2015 comes around.
Post # 6
jackiemargot: I would wait until summer…
Post # 7
- Wedding: May 2015 - Walnut Hill Bed & Breakfast
Why not host a little get together on June 25th this year and invite everyone over and ask them then?
I don’t think it’s TOO early or too late… I know people started asking about who would be a bridesmaid pretty quickly after we set a date.
Post # 8
I’m asking my cousin to be my MoH (I’ve thought about my 2 best friends from college who are like the missing pieces in the puzzle of my personality but I just can’t imagine it not being my cousin), my 2 best friends from college, my best friend from childhood, my sister in law, and 2 other girls I’ve become VERY close with the past few years – one is my confidant/life advice giver/always there for me and the other is a very close friend who will be very helpful and little drama…I’m not asking them to pay for anything but the dresses and shoes (we’re renting a house so that’s covered for them too).
So basically 5 are definite but 2 I’m questioning – but I’ve kind of hinted they’ll be in it and I think they assumed they would be from day 1.
Post # 9
You know your friends best, but personally I feel like it’s too early. No more than a year in advance, for sure. I wouldn’t have said this before coming on these boards, but I’ve read so many horror stories, and having had one years-long friendship implode (TWICE! That’s what I get for forgiving!) I now think you never know what’s going to happen!<br /><br />
But that said… if we’re talking life-long friendships where you’ve never had a serious fight- yeah, why not ask now? I’m having 5 people, all of whom I’ve been consistently close with for at least 10 years, so I’m asking them now- 8 months before my wedding. I would have done it sooner, probably, but we just booked the venue.
Post # 10
I don’t think there’s really a too early or too late time. It really all depends on how certain you are that you want THEM as your bridal party (which it doesn’t sound like you’re 100% confident just yet).
The only experience I have is when I was my friend’s bridesmaid last year. She asked us a year and a month before her wedding to be a part of her bridal party. In between that time, she considered dropping two girls (but only dropped 1) and added 2 more (because her Fiance added another groomsman).
Post # 11
Yes I think it’s too soon , it’s the better part of a year and half away. Unless you get asked outright and it’s uncomfortable to prevaricate, I’d leave it to formally ask no more than a year out .
And , dear OP, and I mean this with the very best feelings to you , do look at the boards re brides who get very upset because their bridesmaids don’t seem excited/involved enough , early enough . I think a very long lead time like 18 months kind of might more easily lead to ‘situations ‘ , you know ?
Post # 12
jackiemargot: like many other PPs have said wait. Especially if there are a couple you’re not 100% sure about. I would ask at the end of the summer. A lot can change even between now and then. I had my bms picked about 10 months in advance and a lot happened in that time!
Also, be aware, the more bridesmaids the.more drama and issues scheduling. I had 5, if I could do it again I would have picked 1 witness to sign for us.